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  • I think it depends on what you mean by “expect”. Do you mean you think they have a moral obligation to apologize because of their actions? That’s not narcissistic. That’s a value judgment. Others may disagree with you, if they hold different values or disagree about the facts involved.

    But maybe by “expect” you think they owe it to you, or something like that? Then there is some potential for narcissism.

    Then as you noted, what is the apology for? Forgiveness? To undo the damage? To show awareness of the badness? To express a goal to not do that shitty thing in the future? People giving and receiving apologies can easily disagree about what the apology is supposed to accomplish.







  • In keeping with this month’s news, if you don’t know what the Japanese American Internment Camps are, or were rather, you might read up on them. I wasn’t taught about them at all.

    Another thing that’s I think more niche but still ought to be taught is the history of censorship of anti-war protests. There were some terrible rulings about a hundred years ago that were later reversed, and that all made it possible for people to protest Vietnam the way they did.

    Finally, one piece of history that’s missing from many high school civics classes is any discussion of how unions themselves led to the minimal labor laws that we have today, that union members were killed in large numbers in the process of pushing for said laws.


  • Your premise is wrong. People recommend all kinds of things, including those two. But you didn’t tell us the backstory. Maybe you’re trying to suggest that many people have told these things to you, and if so, we would want to know the context. It’s quite possible that you’ve described your own situation in a way where those two ideas are obvious potential steps to try.

    I’m also unclear what you mean about people not being capable of therapy. They might not be able to afford it, but that’s not a question of their capacity. Certainly it’s true that various types of therapy can be more or less effective for various people depending on a ton of factors. But it is peculiar to rule out therapy as something that’s totally impossible without any explanation of how or why.





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    It’s worth noting that there are some Democrats, both politicians and voters, who also endorse this strategy. Which is not surprising, especially for a career politicians, because it’s effectively noting that they don’t have any values, and also that their tactics are weak.





  • I think the point is that your therapist should have had a constructive conversation. Learning that you have a particular condition shouldn’t have been the end point. Rather, they could have discussed with you how this particular condition might make certain problems more or less likely, so that you can be better prepared to handle challenges in the future, or so that you’ll be able to recognize them should they arise.

    In other words, it should have been the kind of conversation where you start off feeling somewhat apprehensive, but end up on a somewhative somewhat positive note because you’re gaining greater awareness and therefore control of your own life. It doesn’t sound like that happened, so perhaps you want to get a second opinion.


  • There are plenty of comments similar to yours and every time I see them I wonder, what industries do these people work in, and how much work experience do they actually have. If you’re doing something highly competitive like certain kinds of sales or finance, it makes sense that there’s going to be a lot of jerks around you. But in a lot of other jobs, like if you’re working at the grocery store or something, it’s not like anyone gets any advantage by trying to manipulate you. So I’m really wondering, what are these fields that are just completely full of totally worthless human beings?