You oversimplified. The problem is not empathy on it’s own, but that’s how you worded it. The problem is life is fucked up.
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fodor@lemmy.zipto Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Is the expectation of an apology ultimately narcissistic?9·1 day agoI think it depends on what you mean by “expect”. Do you mean you think they have a moral obligation to apologize because of their actions? That’s not narcissistic. That’s a value judgment. Others may disagree with you, if they hold different values or disagree about the facts involved.
But maybe by “expect” you think they owe it to you, or something like that? Then there is some potential for narcissism.
Then as you noted, what is the apology for? Forgiveness? To undo the damage? To show awareness of the badness? To express a goal to not do that shitty thing in the future? People giving and receiving apologies can easily disagree about what the apology is supposed to accomplish.
fodor@lemmy.zipto OpenChristian@lemmy.ca•Israeli settlers burn West Bank’s last Christian townEnglish3·2 days agoAre you serious? Invader, alien, pillager, land grabbing fuckface, thieving piece of shit, etc.
Grammar is descriptive, not prescriptive. <- The fancy way to say what you said. :-)
Don’t get all isolationist, my friend. Having domestic options is a good idea, but you will be dependent on international countries somehow. And that’s true for the world, right?
So, maybe soften your stance. Or don’t, as you prefer.
fodor@lemmy.ziptoPolitical Memes@lemmy.world•Ghislaine meeting with the DOJ today for a chat1·2 days agoExactly. They’ll promise one at the end of Trump’s presidency. Of course she won’t believe the promise.
fodor@lemmy.zipto politics @lemmy.world•DEMS PULL UPSET ON EPSTEIN FILES: Democrats dropped an 11th-hour motion at an unrelated hearing after noticing that most GOP members on the panel had publicly demanded the files be released.10·2 days agoI kinda agree, but IMO the better way to phrase it is that they don’t have a solid plan. Fascists are stupid. They have to be, right, because they’re building a system that is guaranteed to eat itself. Whoever is in charge always wants more power, which eventually must come from their cohorts, so you can’t do it as a team, at least not if people are using their brains.
fodor@lemmy.zipto Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•What's the "keeping it real" history that Americans are taught the whitewashed version in school?18·2 days agoIn keeping with this month’s news, if you don’t know what the Japanese American Internment Camps are, or were rather, you might read up on them. I wasn’t taught about them at all.
Another thing that’s I think more niche but still ought to be taught is the history of censorship of anti-war protests. There were some terrible rulings about a hundred years ago that were later reversed, and that all made it possible for people to protest Vietnam the way they did.
Finally, one piece of history that’s missing from many high school civics classes is any discussion of how unions themselves led to the minimal labor laws that we have today, that union members were killed in large numbers in the process of pushing for said laws.
fodor@lemmy.zipto Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Why do people always respond to depressed people, by recommending visiting a therapist or going to gym?21·2 days agoYour premise is wrong. People recommend all kinds of things, including those two. But you didn’t tell us the backstory. Maybe you’re trying to suggest that many people have told these things to you, and if so, we would want to know the context. It’s quite possible that you’ve described your own situation in a way where those two ideas are obvious potential steps to try.
I’m also unclear what you mean about people not being capable of therapy. They might not be able to afford it, but that’s not a question of their capacity. Certainly it’s true that various types of therapy can be more or less effective for various people depending on a ton of factors. But it is peculiar to rule out therapy as something that’s totally impossible without any explanation of how or why.
fodor@lemmy.zipto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•What is the best way to learn investing, portfolios, stocks, options, futures, etc.?3·2 days agoBefore you get into those, it’s worth writing down your investment goals. What generally are you trying to accomplish? When you start reading more about investment, some people are going to try to push you into day trading. Obviously investing itself is not guaranteed, it’s a kind of gambling, but all of the short-term stuff is particularly close to casino gambling. Be careful of that.
fodor@lemmy.zipto Anarchism@lemmy.dbzer0.com•Do you know of any class-conscious or anti-capitalist children's songs or nursery rhymes?20·2 days agoHow about Woody Guthrie, This Land is Your Land.
fodor@lemmy.zipto Technology@programming.dev•Uber will let women drivers and riders request to avoid being paired with men starting next month.English7·2 days agoIf only there were some measures that the company could take to minimize that risk… Wait a second, I can think of half a dozen.
It’s worth noting that there are some Democrats, both politicians and voters, who also endorse this strategy. Which is not surprising, especially for a career politicians, because it’s effectively noting that they don’t have any values, and also that their tactics are weak.
I know I know, the A stands for “adolescent”. What does the I stand for?
fodor@lemmy.zipto News@lemmy.world•US Olympic and Paralympic officials bar transgender women from competing in Olympic women’s sports4·2 days agoTo hell with the Olympics. They’re incredibly dirty, they screw over the vast majority of competing athletes, and we already have professional sports organizations that feel the same need should you be interested.
fodor@lemmy.zipto You Should Know@lemmy.world•YSK Employers do NOT verify your total work history unless you're applying for a government position.6·2 days agoThis also depends on the country and the industry. For many American jobs these days, your previous employer might be opening themselves up to a lawsuit if they said anything bad about you, so many companies now will at most identify the duration of your employment and your job title but nothing else.
The point is not that a former employee would necessarily win a lawsuit, but they could bring one and the legal bills alone would be significant, therefore many company lawyers will say to just shut the hell up when asked any questions about performance.
fodor@lemmy.zipto Off My Chest@lemmy.world•Sooo, I got professional help and it turns out I'm a sociopath💀English21·3 days agoI think the point is that your therapist should have had a constructive conversation. Learning that you have a particular condition shouldn’t have been the end point. Rather, they could have discussed with you how this particular condition might make certain problems more or less likely, so that you can be better prepared to handle challenges in the future, or so that you’ll be able to recognize them should they arise.
In other words, it should have been the kind of conversation where you start off feeling somewhat apprehensive, but end up on a somewhative somewhat positive note because you’re gaining greater awareness and therefore control of your own life. It doesn’t sound like that happened, so perhaps you want to get a second opinion.
There are plenty of comments similar to yours and every time I see them I wonder, what industries do these people work in, and how much work experience do they actually have. If you’re doing something highly competitive like certain kinds of sales or finance, it makes sense that there’s going to be a lot of jerks around you. But in a lot of other jobs, like if you’re working at the grocery store or something, it’s not like anyone gets any advantage by trying to manipulate you. So I’m really wondering, what are these fields that are just completely full of totally worthless human beings?
fodor@lemmy.ziptoMicroblog Memes@lemmy.world•Working in a company without a unionEnglish1·4 days agoIn many situations the union is a good way to put more pressure on the boss. Yes, the boss can still do something shady, but the consequences are likely to be more significant.
They won’t arrest anyone. If they do, everything about this whole process will be subpoenaed and plastered in public for all to see.