Hello comrades, as part of our sitewide effort to combat misogynistic and patriarchal attitudes, encourage people to become more familiar with theory, and kick off the reopening of /c/menby, we are launching a book club for The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by bell hooks, a classic of feminist theory. From the Goodreads page:
Everyone needs to love and be loved—even men. But to know love, men must be able to look at the ways that patriarchal culture keeps them from knowing themselves, from being in touch with their feelings, from loving.
In The Will to Change, bell hooks gets to the heart of the matter and shows men how to express the emotions that are a fundamental part of who they are—whatever their age, marital status, ethnicity, or sexual orientation. But toxic masculinity punishes those fundamental emotions, and it’s so deeply ingrained in our society that it’s hard for men to not comply—but hooks wants to help change that.
With trademark candor and fierce intelligence, hooks addresses the most common concerns of men, such as fear of intimacy and loss of their patriarchal place in society, in new and challenging ways. She believes men can find the way to spiritual unity by getting back in touch with the emotionally open part of themselves—and lay claim to the rich and rewarding inner lives that have historically been the exclusive province of women. A brave and astonishing work, The Will to Change is designed to help men reclaim the best part of themselves.
The book is available free on the Internet Archive in text form, as well as an audiobook on Youtube with content warnings at the start of each chapter, courtesy of the Anarchist Audio Library, and as an audiobook on our very own TankieTube! (note: the YT version is missing the Preface but the Tankietube version has it)
It’s a fairly short read (the text is ~120 pages, the audiobook’s chapters are ~30min each) so we’re going to be discussing 2 chapters each week, starting with the preface and Chapter 1 on Weds, November 27th.
Please comment below if you wish to be pinged when the discussion threads go live.
I need to stress that we expect masc Hexbear users to participate in this book club and engage with the material. Hexbear, like most western leftist spaces, has well-established problems with patriarchal attitudes, misogyny, white supremacy, and western chauvinism. Any comments attempting to minimize or deny these problems will be removed and the poster will cop a ban. Kill the liberal in your mind, listen to what your marginalized comrades have been saying over and over again, and READ THEORY WITH US
Please comment with any other resources or suggestions you think would be helpful as we read through this. Shoutout to @wtypstanaccount04@hexbear.net for running the original reading group last year. There was good engagement back then but we’re gonna pump those numbers up, right libs?
Time for your hexbear mandated de-penising honey
Sarcasm aside im excited for this though, especially to be betyer at clapping back to some lib friends that are slipping into the incel blueanon pipeline and spout misogyny into the group chat with increasing frequency
THIS IS YOUR 3-DAY REMINDER
PREFACE AND CHAPTER 1 DISCUSSION WILL BEGIN ON 11/27!!!
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I was kinda feeling like re-reading this one for a while now, it definitely is very entry-level as far as any kind of antri-patriarchal theory goes, but I also remember it being a very touching and very revealing book to me. I’m definitely in, looking forward to this. Please send me a ping when those threads go live.
feel free to start thinking of recommendations for the next menby book
I’d like to be pinged too. 120 pages seems manageable. Thanks for the effort.
Dropping in for the ping.
Please ping me I’ve been meaning to finish this and I’d love to do it along with y’all.
we expect masc Hexbear users to participate
what’s “masc”?
Short for masculine, what we mean by that is users who identify as men or identify with masculinity in general. Everyone is welcome to participate of course but there’s a specific expectation that masc users will be reading
Ping please.
Thank you to whoever added the audio book, easy to knock out folks!
I read this I think at the start of COVID. Tag me in coach. Let’s all elevate ourselves together!
go on then, ping me please
I think there should be a reminder before the day though. Maybe half way there and then the day before.
Great idea, I just don’t want to inundate people with pings I’ll at least do a “halfway there” ping ig
Or maybe like, 3 days as a medium?
“I know you are here to @ me. Ping, mod, you are only going to fill my inbox.”
— Che Guevara’s last words, probably
the pingletariat must learn
Hell yeah, please ping me!
Edit: Ok I planned to just briefly skim the preface and ended up blazing through the first two chapters, this book fuckin HITS. Will absolutely rec this to some of my friends, thanks for creating this discussion group! I would absolutely love a regular book club, this website already introduced Feinberg and Sakai to me and I’d love to read more!
Ping me, please. I read the first chapter of this about a yearish ago, but I have a lot of trouble finishing books
ping meee!
don’t really identify as masc these days but from what I’ve hear it will likely still be useful
I’d like to be pinged. I was waiting a bit for this to go up since they announced it. This would be my first real reading group tbh.
I’m interested, please ping ya boi. Also would be interested in discussion of masculinity with regards to black male identity (as a black man).