• fibojoly@sh.itjust.works
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    3 hours ago

    That makes sense. A lot of difficult conversations have been had in bed, while looking at the ceiling or cuddling or in the dark altogether.

  • Twoisformyshow@sh.itjust.works
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    1 day ago

    This is actually a real phenomenon. They tested this in several studies, and looking at another person, like when you’re sitting across a table, creates more psychosocial cues for confrontation. You can try it with your partner of choice: cuddle with one of you spooning the other, and talk about something mildly upsetting or embarassing to you, then repeat while holding hands and sitting across a table directly looking at each other.

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      1 day ago

      I think that’s why therapy over gaming is helping.

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          22 hours ago

          The trick for Mario Party is to crank up the difficulty on a COM player and then just explicitly ally against them. We all win so long as Luigi loses. Actual star and coin count are just for bragging rights behind the primary objective of putting him in the dirt.

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        21 hours ago

        I’ve never been more openly vulnerable than when gaming with a buddy of mine. I swear we both know the ins and outs of each other’s personal drama without even intending to ever share it. Shit just came out on its own

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    20 hours ago

    This is called triangulation! It’s when the focus is removed from the hard or vulnerable conversation, so it’s easier to have it.

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    “the priest in the box” makes it sound more like a sadistic experiment of Schrödinger’s

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    23 hours ago

    As long as you can hear fine without lip reading