• aaaaaaadjsf [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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      First and foremost, my partner went exclusively to single sex schools. He has never actually been present to observe these kinds of behaviors in school age/teenage girls (only dated a few when he was in late teens).

      This is why I have almost no friends left from my time at an all boys boarding high school. Just say the most deranged stuff about women, even now that they’re in their mid 20s. Didn’t grow out if it at all.

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        I had a similar experience in college: most of the people I roomed with and went to class with were self described “South Park Republicans” and most went on to tech jobs which only coddled and amplified their dudebro “nonpolitical” misogyny.

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          I met up with some of them recently and it was just sad. I know people don’t change that much and shouldn’t be expected to, but these guys said the exact same stuff they did when they were 16, almost a decade later. No personal growth in almost a decade. Just sad.

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      First and foremost, my partner went exclusively to single sex schools. He has never actually been present to observe these kinds of behaviors in school age/teenage girls (only dated a few when he was in late teens).

      That’s not a surprise that’s a cause

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      This is one of those things where I’d ask if you’ve brought it up with him, but holy shit I’m so tired of arguing with people all the time.

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      What has incorrectly been attributed to the individual genders, should have instead been attributed to humanity as a whole. Bitchyness isn’t a woman thing, it’s a human thing, same as- being a dick isn’t a man thing, it’s a human thing.

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      Yep this goes for most of anything. Ignorant people speak in absolutes. Even more so when they’re not self reflecting at all.

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      This is so funny to me because my partner does the same stuff! His buddies are all in their 30s and have been friends since grade school. It’s gotten to the point where he complains to me about his friend who complains to him about some other friend of theirs. I keep telling him (and his friend) the fact they even talk about this dude so much means they still on some level care about him… even though they are always talking mad shit.

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          I pointed out misandry

          You being a crybully piece of shit and getting called out for being a crybully piece of shit isn’t misandry. You truly are not all men. Which is fortunate.

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              Bravo, you have solved the problem. * dusts hands *

              Your passive-aggressive sarcasm makes you look petty and weak here. Your “self improvement” is continuing to sabotage you.

              amusingly

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                  You are telling me to go become a redpiller/Tateist lol.

                  Jordan Peterson once said “clean your room, bucko.” That doesn’t mean that cleaning a room is automatically a bad idea. Likewise, you must have some terrible grasp of lived reality if you think the only reason to not sulk and be passive-aggressive all the time is because of what a human trafficker might have said once.

                  Rather be calm and not listen

                  You keep replying. You keep carrying that cross you built for yourself.

                  than swing myself in any direction

                  You’re freefalling in a self-inflicted rightward direction and fooling no one here.

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          This is precisely why I find myself always taking a step back whenever I end up aligning with the socialist left on social politics.

          Sure, sure, you are as leftist as they come, butt

          Everytime it is about cis het men self improvement or working out

          Or you pretending it’s all you’re doing when you write Elliot Rodger tier shit like this:

          no social consideration for men

          I can already see the Petersonian crocodile tears. up-yours-woke-moralists

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              Sorry

              You’re not, but you sound more passive-aggressive with that Reddit-tier opener. If you’re that big into “self improvement” try improving your delivery style.

              I never followed lobster boy

              Considering how much you’ve already either lied about or laughably misread women around you, I’m going to doubt you here. If you truly haven’t, and you want to continue your crusade of self pity and totally-not-misogyny misogyny, you’re missing out by not signing on with Dr. Professor Peterson Esquire PhD MD. You have no apparent functional differences between your ideology and his.

              About 99% of my politics is pretty much as leftist

              There it is again. You are so totally as leftist as they come, butt

              The thing with bigots like you is that you think it’s some equal (or worse) negative thing to feel even a hint of what you in your privileged position dish out on a regular basis, unnoticed and unseen. If you truly feel oppressed by those evil feeeeemales, look at how many poor oppressed “canceled” men dominate corporate boardrooms and the Fortune 500 list (while burning the planet down).

              is going to get labelled as a “Petersonian” or “pseudointellectual” redpill apologist

              Because you are and have provided absolutely nothing of substance to prove otherwise. If you sermonize against women like a Petersonian, do pseudointellectual Redpill apologism like a pseudointellectual Redpill apologist, and then whine about the labels, the problem is not the labels. It is you.

              Blame the men that need to be blamed.

              You’re one of them. I am a man with good relationships with women, from my wife to my coworkers to my friends. The problem is you. Your pretenses of “self improvement” are keeping you in a bitter and hateful rut and I sincerely hope you drop the nonsense someday.

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    In my experience they seem to do, at least at their workplace. I’ve never heard a man complain about their coworkers in some mean way… But most women I know do actively complain about them…

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      Do you have male friends? I hear women complain about their coworkers all the time, but it’s not close to the level of awful things / personal attacks I’ve heard from my male friends.

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        I used to work in an appliance factory, and the employees there were split pretty evenly male/female. And here’s the fun part, both men and women could be shitheads, and both men and women could be awesome people.

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    Tumblr is so shit.

    Like it clearly says we asked 3 women but they can’t even read two sentences to get to that fact.

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      but why ask a man in the first place? and even if you do, why present it like it’s two positions of equal merit (and present the man’s first)?

      I don’t know what’s in the article, but the headline itself is pretty funny in it’s absurdity.

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        Being a women yourself only makes you know plus one woman. This qualifies you only a little bit more to answer such a question. A more interesting metric would be how many women you know in total.

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          If the amount of ghosting tantrums I get from every guy the moment I won’t date with them is an indication, probably on speaking terms with more women at once than they are, yes.

          Not that I would deny them their chance to tell me what I think