• Instantnudeln@feddit.deOP
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      10 months ago

      Yea, but being soft on myself also doesn’t work, and I just lose my patience with myself real quick because it’s annoying that I never get anything done.

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                It’s might sound kinda silly but one thing that helped me be kinder to myself was thinking about how I treat others

                I’d never treat people I cared about how I was treating myself so trying to be as kind to myself as I was to others was the goal I set for myself

                And overtime it became easier and easier to be kind to myself about my short comings

                Yeah I may fail to do all the tasks I set out for myself today but I did accomplish somethings

                It may even be little things some days and other days it’s not a whole lot at all

                But the kinder I was to myself the more I found myself able to do the things I set out to do

                I still stumble some days but that’s okay

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                  That reminds me of Rossmanns last video where he tells the story of how he discovered that he himself has also worth, especially compared to brokem apple computers.

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        10 months ago

        I think the trick is to be kind to yourself but to try different methods to solve your issues until you find one that fits. For example, a lot of people are helped by just having a schedule beforehand, so that’s generally one of the first things that get recommended.

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      10 months ago

      Been trying it for thirty years, maybe another thirty will do the trick! Persistence is key!

      /s

      Someone please sedate me…

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      10 months ago

      I made this meme while screaming at myself: “WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU MAKING A MEME ABOUT THIS SHIT NOW INSTEAD OF JUST WORKING?!”

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        Straight up I’m on my 2nd break post nap since noon (literally less than 2 hours ago)

        I’ve got so much crap to do today and I’m all out of function already

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    10 months ago

    "Hey bud, I know you’re having a hard time working right now, and that’s a pretty good meme but maybe let’s just set a stopwatch and do at least 15 minutes of work before going back to memes. Don’t keep an eye on the stopwatch but you can check it if you really feel like you want to check memes. Okay good luck. "

    Best I can do, for some positive self talk

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      I feel bad because his condition literally prevented him from accomplishing basic job functions, but wtf else are we supposed to do? We are engineers not mental health specialists or day care workers, we are busy and have just enough pay and resources to do our own jobs, not sit around and babysit a grown man who can’t focus on easy things. We have our own lives and kids to worry about, and this guy won’t even take medication.

      The real problem is the super structure that wasn’t made to accept the divergent. If we really care about all people we should bring this down and propose a new drive for production instead of profit.