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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Left_Spare_7564 on 2023-09-05 15:10:37.

My wife and I devide all expenses based on income (I pay 80% she pays 20%) and devide all the house chores based on working hourse ( I do all the chores 3 days a week and she does all the chores 4 days a week)

I recently decided to get a maid to do all the chores on my 3 days. I pay her from my own fun money. My wife is pissed that she does all the chores 4 days a week and I do nothing. I told her that she can get a maid for her 4 days and pay her from her own fun money but she thinks this is unfair and we should devide the maid expense 80/20 just like other expenses

I think this is very unfair and told her so. I then asked her what does SHE bring to the table if I’m paying for almost everything? She thinks I’m an asshole and currently we are not talking

  • Dean in WIEnglish
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    10 months ago

    Maybe not complete AH but very uncool and unnecessary. I can see why she’s not talking to you.

    In this scenario, I see you now as a boss and your wife and the housekeeper as your servants because you get the benefit of a completely clean house just because you can afford it.

    Might work out for you financially but unless you enjoy snuggling up to your money every night I suggest you find a more reasonable solution.