Sounds like you’re living with some emotional neglect that you should work on with your wife to get what you need in a relationship.

Take this advice or leave it but from what you described you sound like a man and we’re often taught to neither show emotions nor expect comfort. These are both very human needs. We shouldn’t go without them, accept a pittance of it, or fear that we’re in need of constant reassurance.

I hope you can find what you want in the world.