Do ya’ll ever wonder if single family zoning, and car-centric urban planning, are some of the primary factors behind modern adults suffering from rampant loneliness? Two environments renown for fostering friendships and social activities are university campuses, and seasonal jobs in remote locations. What do those two things have in common? Proximity. People work, eat, and play together. In another word, community.

In my experience, humans are simple creatures. We take the path of least resistance. For your standard adult, the concept of traveling across town to meet up with friends after a full day of work or chores is exhausting. We crave those connections, but the barrier to entry is too high. We settle for whatever scratches that itch with the minimal amount of effort. Typically that involves some form of social media or other digital communication. It’s like grabbing that crappy packet of ramen because you ran out of groceries before your market day. It’s not really what you want to have for dinner, but it’s what is readily available so you shrug and eat it anyway.

This is all anecdotal and speculation on my part, but I’m curious if anyone else has any thoughts on this.

  • SwingingTheLamp
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    9 months ago

    I don’t think so.

    I know so. I’ve read a number of articles in recent years about how weak social ties are just as important as strong ones for happiness. This is just the first result from a search: Weak social ties are just as important as strong ones for greater life satisfaction

    Weak social ties are precisely the ones that get cut off by car dominance, what with driving across town to do everything in life, only mixing it up with strangers you’ll never recognize again instead of the usual bunch of neighbors. Between snout houses, online shopping, and drive-thrus, one could live a normal suburban life for weeks without interacting with anybody but coworkers and family. Now add work-from-home…

    Edit: Here’s another article that makes the connection directly: https://www.businessinsider.com/barcelona-solution-loneliness-crisis-pollution-cars-streets-parks-traffic-sidewalks-2023-12

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      9 months ago

      Its social media, not cars. You’re not getting in the car when in you’re staying inside and not talking with your neighbors. We’'re fucking around on reddit Lemmy or any other social media. We left neighbourhoods where we knew everyone and were a part of the community, and instead went to the web where we know nobody and nobody gives a shit. My extended family stopped having annual family gatherings because no one talked or attended. Two decades ago, and for plenty of years/generations before that, those gatherings were packed and always the event of the year.

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        9 months ago

        I get what you’re saying, and I don’t disagree, but the question was whether cars are making us lonely, not whether cars are the only thing making us lonely. There can be many causes. I’d say that social media is eroding the strong social ties, those with family and friends.