I don’t do things with them outside of work hours except for doing one dinner out as a group on work trips. Even those that I discuss some personal stuff with (mostly theirs) I keep it to breaks and maybe lunch. It has worked out really well at my current employer for over a decade while also seeing a few of them who do stuff outside of work have very dramatic conflicts and some people left due to that outside stuff.
This followed a few jobs where I had both positive and negative experiences with hanging out with coworkers outside work. Eventually decided that I’m not social enough to need additional friends outside work. Might give it another shot at some point, but don’t want to find out something that would sour a good working relationship like the person being a racist who just hides it at work.
I don’t do things with them outside of work hours except for doing one dinner out as a group on work trips. Even those that I discuss some personal stuff with (mostly theirs) I keep it to breaks and maybe lunch. It has worked out really well at my current employer for over a decade while also seeing a few of them who do stuff outside of work have very dramatic conflicts and some people left due to that outside stuff.
This followed a few jobs where I had both positive and negative experiences with hanging out with coworkers outside work. Eventually decided that I’m not social enough to need additional friends outside work. Might give it another shot at some point, but don’t want to find out something that would sour a good working relationship like the person being a racist who just hides it at work.