Let me preface by saying, I would love to hear counter points and am fully open to the fact that I could be wrong and totally out of touch. I just want to have some dialogue around something thatā€™s been bothering me in the fediverse.

More and more often I keep hearing people refer to ā€œnormiesā€. I think by referring to other people as ā€œnormiesā€, whether you intend to or not, you inadvertently gatekeep and create an exclusive environment rather than an inclusive one in the fediverse.

If I was not that familiar with the fediverse and decided to check it out and the first thing I read was a comment about ā€œnormiesā€, I would quite honestly be very put off. It totally has a negative connotation and doesnā€™t even encapsulate any one group. I just read a comment about someone grouping a racist uncle and funny friend into the same category of normie because they arenā€™t up to date on the fediverse or super tech savvy or whatever.

I donā€™t want to see any Meta bs in the fediverse. I barely want to see half of the stuff from Reddit in the fediverse. I donā€™t want to see the same echo chamber I do everywhere else.

I do want to see more users and more perspectives and a larger user base though. I want to see kindness and compassion. I want to talk to people about topics they are interested in. I want to have relevant discussions without it dissolving into some commentary on some unrelated hot topic thing.

I think calling people normies creates a more toxic, exclusive place which I personally came here to avoid.

Just my two cents! I know for most people using the term it isnā€™t meant to be malicious, but I think it comes off that way.

Love to hear all of your thoughts.

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    I mean not get too far down that rabbit hole, but I would argue that we are all human beings first and we all belong to many different groups, not just one.

    And I think youā€™re missing my point.

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      of course can groups overlap, and we are all humans but that doesnā€™t mean that group dynamics are a bad thing?

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        These arenā€™t actual group dynamics. In any way. Exclusion and ā€œus vs themā€ is not a positive group dynamic. Do not promote it.

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          So youā€™re saying there are people who DO use ā€œnormiesā€ and people that DONā€™T use ā€œnormiesā€. These are not two groups of people. Shit, I just joined this thread, so that makes ME one of YOU, and thereā€™s OTHERS that arenā€™t here. Are WE the elitists? Or are THEY the ā€œnormiesā€? YOU said thereā€™s no thereā€™s no US or THEM, so EVERYONE is talking in this thread. ANYONE not in this thread must not exist because I know I exist, so YOU thread posters must exist, but wait, that makes ME an US and YOU a THEM.

          (Iā€™m not trying to be snarky, but this argument is exactly as nonsensical.)

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            Buddy, are you ok? You can define ā€œgroupsā€ by literally anything. The existence of a delineation is not ā€œgroup dynamics.ā€ Group dynamics is not the existence of a categorizational model. Group dynamics is the interaction between two groups. And the phrase used was ā€œus vs themā€ and I will point out that ā€œvsā€ has a very specific meaning.

            What the fuck are you on about? You sound like someone on crack for their first time. I never said there was no us or them. I said thereā€™s no reason to have us vs them. Iā€™m not sure what part of reading comprehension you failed at, but you need to improve it.

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              My point is that this argument makes as much sense as what I wrote, so itā€™s encouraging the you think itā€™s ridiculous.

              ā€œVersusā€ is a valueless delineation separating two subjects. There are two groups: The people of the Fediverse and the people not in the Fediverse. Neither one is good or bad, and in fact, many are a part of BOTH. That self awareness cancels any perceived negativity. Weā€™re all probably some level of ā€œnormie,ā€ and Iā€™ve never heard someone use that word without immediate laughter by all parties. Sure, maybe in the early 00s by grade school punks, but I donā€™t think anyone does or should care.

              The point youā€™re actually making, without articulating it well, is the lack of terminology for federated groups. No one wants to say, ā€œIā€™m a member of a select federated Lemmy and Kbin instances within the larger Fediverse.ā€ You want an affirmative set of terms, so that delineation can be made; you want to say, ā€œThe X have this, and the not(X) have that.ā€ From there you can get to value judgements, based on the expression of X, and Iā€™ll recognize your concerns. The ridiculousness of those terms not existing makes it VERY hard to claim intentional negativity/harm because it simultaneously draws attention that group X in this case doesnā€™t have their shit together enough to come up with a nickname or shorthand.

              ā€œYouā€™re better than us? What are you?ā€
              ā€œWell, you see, Iā€™m a part of a federated network ofā€¦ā€
              (Looks up - everyone left)

              So, until someone comes up with some non-super-cringe terms for this wonderful mess, the discussion is a waste of everyoneā€™s time. And until then, I suggest taking it on a case by case basis. If someone is offended, tell them thatā€™s not intended because we donā€™t have OUR shit together, ask them what they prefer, and use that term around them.

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                This was a bunch of nonsense. It was entirely tangental and didnā€™t actually mean anything. You literally mention two groups that are mutually exclusive by definition and say some folks are part of both. Moreover, you made your own definition for what ā€œversusā€ means and ignored what actually defines a group that isnā€™t an identity. Thereā€™s no identity in a group defined like youā€™re talking about.

                Youā€™re actually making even less sense than before. Itā€™s like the more words you use, the less sense you make. You should try being succinct and see if that helps you communicate better.