• zifnab25 [he/him, any]@hexbear.net
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    8 months ago

    just so thoroughly true and highly cross-cultural

    Dudes smell bad. Young dudes who are just going through puberty typically don’t realize how bad they smell, because they didn’t smell this bad until they started growing hair and whatnot. Only children and other kids cut off from older mentors or other wiser peers often don’t realize how/why they’re so off-putting. And when you combine smell with a host of other physical/social/intellectual hang-ups common to teenagers, its easy to see how “You smell bad” gets lost amid the crowd of other generic insults that get flung around.

    Hygiene can’t be a one-day thing, you have to keep those clothes from getting smelly for as long as you own them. Barring actually forcing people to take a supervised shower to ensure they soap their ass, put on deodorant & issuing them a clean set of clothing on entry this will always be a problem.

    Its a bigger thing for men (especially hairy men) entirely because of physiology. And when you spend a lot of time around other men who also smell bad, you go a bit nose-blind.

    Depending on the culture of the group you’re in, this can be self-correcting or self-reinforcing. Teenagers with older brothers/sisters will often get the talk about why young dudes are gross much sooner. Kids with younger parents / younger aunts or uncles or cousins / big extended families often get clued in sooner, too.

    But - historically speaking - these aren’t the kids that gravitate towards CCGs as a means of peer-bonding, because they’re chasing their older peers’ hobbies rather than clinging to games made for the

    demographic