• dkr567 [comrade/them, he/him]@hexbear.net
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    I still remember in the bus I was next to a guy that literally smelled like he didn’t wipe or wash his asscrack as it reeked of feces and I had to get off the bus much earlier than my usual stop. Is there some like unspoken rule that some dudes don’t wash their ass? Because that is not what I was taught as a kid with respect to basic hygiene.

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      There literally is yes. They’re in the minority as far as I’m aware but it is a thing some people just don’t wash their assholes (men or women, definitely more common with men though). I try to give people the benefit of the doubt maybe they just never learned and have never been called out, maybe they suffer from depression, there can be all kinds of things, but definitely a subset know and don’t care

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          Not even just among g*mers and nerds, it is a common toxic masculine thing. Used to see askreddit threads and relationshipadvice posts and stuff all “my(27f) husband(46m) of 10 years has never washed his ass and I’m finally sick of his dingleberries getting in the bed all the time. What can I do? I tried telling him to wash his ass, but he said he ‘won’t let me turn him into a force feminised soy gay male’ in response.”

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            That is honestly sad and worrying (excluding people that could suffer from depression or others that impede them from cleaning themselves). The fact that basic hygiene is somehow considered “gay” or not washing is “masculine”.

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      i can’t remember the context but i once saw a reddit post with a picture of a guy with white jeans and white underwear (partly showing), and the top comment was something like ‘wow, imagine having this much confidence in your wiping skills’

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      Is there some like unspoken rule that some dudes don’t wash their ass

      This is embarrassing but I didn’t wipe until I was in my twenties and saw a reddit post of girlfriends complaining about how none of their boyfriends wiped and how they all had underwear streaks and other hygiene issues. I’ve kept my butthole clean for over ten years now but I have no doubt that that’s still a thing, and that there’s some kind of machismo “being clean is for betas and females” thing that causes it.