On the other hand, I’m not sure I’ve met anyone who quite fits the bill of a normal, healthy, emotionally secure person. Everybody I know is fairly messed up, and most of them never figure out that they are, much less actually work on themselves.
Just be aware of and frank about your issues while working on them. You can’t build character without adversity, and character is attractive.
I am admittedly, in a similar boat. But I wouldn’t want to date anyone who hasn’t been through some shit. How could we ever relate?
“Normal” people are just ao traumatized of being forced to be “normal” that they continue the abusive cycle of equating “normal” with “good”. “Normal” people are not less traumatized than “non-normal”/weird people. Their trauma is just repressed and barely visible.
On the other hand, I’m not sure I’ve met anyone who quite fits the bill of a normal, healthy, emotionally secure person. Everybody I know is fairly messed up, and most of them never figure out that they are, much less actually work on themselves.
Just be aware of and frank about your issues while working on them. You can’t build character without adversity, and character is attractive.
I am admittedly, in a similar boat. But I wouldn’t want to date anyone who hasn’t been through some shit. How could we ever relate?
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“Normal” people are just ao traumatized of being forced to be “normal” that they continue the abusive cycle of equating “normal” with “good”. “Normal” people are not less traumatized than “non-normal”/weird people. Their trauma is just repressed and barely visible.