Which makes me wonder. Dad’s of Lemmy…what’s the worst advice you’ve ever received about parenting?

  • orangeNgreen@lemmy.world
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    7 months ago

    This one wasn’t advice, but one of those “when I have kids…” statements.

    Our 2 year old daughter is in a phase where she’s very picky about what she wears. Purple, unicorns, mermaids, rainbows, and princesses are the generally accepted categories. Since life is hard enough, we tend to let her choose her outfits. We even go so far as to let her pick out her next day’s outfit, and then sleep in that because she hates most pajamas.

    My brother in law let me know that when he has kids, they’re going to wear what he tells them to wear. I just kinda chuckled.

    I pick my battles. As long as she is clothed appropriately, there are many other things I can waste my time fighting over.

    • The_v@lemmy.world
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      7 months ago

      Brother-in-law “When I have kid they are sleeping every night in their own bed.”

      You can guess how that turned out

  • nzeayn@lemmy.world
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    7 months ago

    “Don’t buy your son pink boots, thats a girl color.” some rando in the store about the snow boots my happy 5yr old just picked out and is hugging. laughed and told my kid he could pick out a toy now too.

    “Don’t try so hard. they’ll always love the mom more no matter what you do, so take it easy” my dad. yep.

    “don’t let your kid pick their own food” former friend without kids.

    “don’t let your kid argue with you, ever” different former friend with kids.

    • SbisasCostlyTurnover@feddit.ukOP
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      7 months ago

      The woman in question told me that in order to help my toddler through his tantrums and general toddler-ness me and Mummy should opt for a strict ‘mimic the crying’ strategy.

      She wants us to cry when he cries. Won’t be trying that one. My ‘gentle parenting’ philosophy may have been abandoned at the birth of my second child, but I’m not sure I’m quite ready to traumatize my child in such an overt way just yet.

      • CameronDev@programming.dev
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        7 months ago

        I’m not a parent, but my solution to tantrums is to send my imaginary little fucker to the local coal mine for the rest of the year. Have you tried that?

        Do i need /s? :D