cross-posted from: https://lemmynsfw.com/post/269418

I get the sense that many people (including me) would answer “frequency” or maybe it’s “variety”. What is it for you? How could your needs be better satisfied?

It would be really cool to give people suggestions too, if you have any good ideas to help.

  • porn_account@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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    1 year ago

    My wife and I do this and her libido is up quite a bit – there’s a few moments when she looks at me thirstily even in non sexual situations. She lkes to tease further away from the edge like you’re saying. For her personally, she can only handle one super close edge in a session because it tires her out. It’s similar to how an orgasm tires her out. But she can tease further away from the edge for at least an hour.

    YMMV though because some women say that denying their orgasm actually just kills libido. But I suspect many could possibly get something out of teasing or edging in some way.

    Also if you’re going long term, to me it feels like 3-4 weeks of teasing gets my wife to similar levels of arousal and desperation as I achieve after a couple of days. Something to think about. I don’t think it’s just a male sexuality vs female sexuality thing either, because I know there are women out there who crave sex. Probably just a lower libido thing.

    I also had some success teaching her to talk dirty to me while she’s edging. Seems like she’s starting to explore her sexuality, and she’s learning that she instantly feels wetter and feels more pleasure as soon as she says something dirty to me. But it took a long time of her feeling awkward and embarrassed to start to make those connections.