“b-but bears are actually dangerous!” Shut the hell up.

  • paddirn@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    My edge-case where I run into something semi-related to this issue is when I go on my daily walks and get caught walking behind women. I’m a fast walker, it pains me to have to slow down for people and I don’t like having to walk awkwardly around other people walking too slow (especially if they’re just barely slow but not too slow). I realize that the Flash is trapped in a living hell walking behind all these goddamn slow walkers.

    I dislike walking behind women especially, nothing that’s their fault, they’re just living life, but because then I get extra self-conscious, like, “Oh geez, what if they think I’m following them or that I’m trying took at their butt or what if I’m making them uncomfortable.” It’s about the implication. Walking slowly isn’t an option because it extends the whole thing out and makes it worse, so then I have to re-route my whole walking routine on the off-chance my very existence might make somebody else uncomfortable.

    I’ve tried saying things to them to try to put them at ease like, “I wasn’t planning on raping you,” or “Hey, it’s ok, I’m not a rapist,” but nothing seems to work, if anything, it makes them more uncomfortable. I honestly don’t know what women want from men.

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      9 months ago

      i prefer screaming from a significant distance behind them while rapidly approaching to show that i have something to inform them about.

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      9 months ago

      That’s why I got a shirt that says “^^^not ^^^a RAPIST”. Then when they look back they can tell.

      It’s just common sense in this day and age.

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      9 months ago

      Uh, maybe say something that doesn’t include the word “rape” in a sentence?

      “Just passing by, in a hurry… sorry to bother you” has always worked just fine for me.

      Hey just so you know, I’m totally not going to rape you 😏 Jesus man, that’d creep me out, too.

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          9 months ago

          Ah, no shame in that. But I admit, I could have at least looked at what community I was trying to make a serious comment in - this one is on me.

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      9 months ago

      Uh, you could literally just go around them and not say anything, or say excuse me or something. Happens all the time, and presumably these walks aren’t at 3am, so most people wouldn’t even question it. Saying, “I’m not a rapist,” is such a weird choice that I’d immediately be on edge.