I, for example, am very turned on by contrasts. So noticeable height differences, size differences (individual body parts or the whole package), skin tone, shapes, etc.
I kinda wish my wife (who’s very pale) were bi because I would love to see her have sex with a dark skinned woman that’s a similar height and weight as her, or a short, petite woman (she’s also tall for a woman).
The boldness to use two commas in the first three words of a sentence.
Oh yeah, people pointing out innocuous peculiarities of grammar is my turn on!
Oh, well, that is certainly peculiar 😏
My cat, Comma, is, well, the best.
😂
Have I got a deal for you…!
Confidence without arrogance. Being able to assert yourself without being a douche or feeling the need “one up” everyone. Fake alpha bullshit is a huge turnoff.
Talent and passion. An otherwise-average woman who can, for example, play an instrument or write or dance beautifully sort of immediately becomes a 10/10 for me.
I love people who love things I do as well. A couple examples from recent memory: I love black metal and I was wearing a hoodie from an obscure band and this guy recognized the logo. We had a long talk about music and that was definitely a huge turn on. I also really love when people geek out about stuff, and I met a guy who’s a mechanical engineer and he was happy to talk about his job and all the things that go along with it.
I guess I’m just describing having a personality.
I get it. A personality seems like a hard thing to find sometimes.
Being a nice person, caring for others and what you do really sparks my interest.
That’s very wholesome, LookingForButtsAndSuch.
For me it’s having a very distinct feature of some sort. I don’t know why, but if she is very short or tall, or has a prosthetic limb or weirdly shaped boobs, or a nose like a racing yacht’s keel, it just really does something for me. Like otherwise I generally find most of the same features as many people do attractive, but add that standout trait and whoah, be still, my heart.
Woman with her hair in a ponytail.
As an appearance sort of thing…big hair. Natural big hair. Wavy, curly or full on afro.
Yay! I remember some guy on Reddit saying he would not date anyone with straight hair, he just was not into it. Only wavy, curly, or kinky hair did he find attractive. I can see the beauty in smooth flowing hair personally, but would not want it for myself, curly is livelier.
A woman wearing a thin choker, like a lace choker or a thin choker with a small pendant.
I’m not into BDSM, and I don’t link this with the meaning of being collared. I just like the esthetics of this kind of necklace.
Hair. When a woman has nice hair, it’s really hot.
On the subject of contrasts: You show me four women and I’d pick the one who is apparently different, every time. Three blondes and a brunette? Three brunettes and a blonde? Three sundresses and shorts and t-shirt? I’ll pick “the ___ one” every time.
Thunderstorms. I am not aroused by thunderstorms, but they’re great fucking weather. I don’t know if it’s because it’s cooler, if it’s the background noise, the lighting, but my ideal sex scenario has a summer afternoon thunderstorm going on outside.
On the subject of contrasts: You show me four women and I’d pick the one who is apparently different, every time. Three blondes and a brunette? Three brunettes and a blonde? Three sundresses and shorts and t-shirt? I’ll pick “the ___ one” every time.
I wonder if you can run a small scientific test, where the same two women each take turns as the odd one out.
I mean, your wife could do someone male to provide that contrast, even more contrast, right? It wouldn’t require her to be bi. I do also find contrast beautiful, like black hair and pale skin is so pretty and yes two different looking bodies entwined. I don’t like when guys are huge and women tiny, or vice versa, though. Have always dated guys around my height.
I agree with both quiet non arrogant confidence, and competence, those are hot.
that’s where all of my sexual attraction comes from! I don’t really get people thirsting over a random pretty person being naked. But make that person dominant and caring and I’m down.
I particularly enjoy those traits in potential sexual partners:
Dominance, creativity, intelligence (if you’re smarter than me I’m already on my knees), size difference is also good, confidence, assertiveness, caring, simply being a nice person to be around & being able to be emotionally vulnerable.
Both me and my husband are basically, eyes face, and for me bum, for him, boobs.
Nothing else for me I think, I like deep voices, but more so, I find high pitched and scratchy voices a turn off.But then him, being outwitted. He is stupidly smart, he has a PhD and 2 Masters, and finds someone outwitting him or outsmarting him actually a turn on. It’s weird. The odd times I do it, prove him wrong, he almost instantly jumps my bones, he can’t control himself.
A proper face slap. Not facial abuse per se, just a nice solid front hand slap. Giving or recieving. It realy wakes you up.
