“nt’s see explanations as deflection, which like to a degree it is (because rejection hurts) but you or me would see it as communicating that we’re not going to continue the harm further bringing up the point is seen by them as you “fighting” or “avoiding accountability” which they then feel a need to counter”
RSD fucking sucks because I literally CANNOT HELP the urge to explain its pathological and I don’t think I can cope with this it involves controlling my instinctive behavior in ways I don’t think I can manage to actually do. I am totally fucked this world will never have room for me in it I am so upset.
They think explaining is making excuses for your actions, when really it’s you articulating that you understand what the problem was and will correct for it, and just want them to know that you know
