• Cethin@lemmy.zip
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    If you are that worked up about words you must lead a pretty good life.

    I do, as I’m assuming all of us here mostly do, as we have access to electricity, computers, and the internet. I’m not worked up about it though. I’m trying to explain how something used in the past doesn’t justify it being used in the present. I’m also trying to get you to empathize with other people. You’re upset and don’t like being upset. Great. Now apply that to the words you’re using. See how they could upset others, and how others probably don’t like being upset either.

    I think I have used the Internet for too long to get upset about getting slurs hurled at me online. People are much more vile when cloaked by the anonymity of their keyboard. It’s been like that since Usenet and BBSs. That’s human nature. You’re free to not interact.
    But trying to police stuff you don’t like just because “is enforcing your beliefs”. Nobody will be harmed by edgy comments under a post about 4chan. Not everyone is out to get you and needs to be canceled.

    I’m equally free to interact. You won’t be harmed by me informing you how others may not appreciate the way you speak. You are free to be racist online and spread hate speech. Probably no one is going to be able to stop you if that’s your desire. That would foster a bad community and may cause actual harm to people though, so we all recognize that it’s wrong.

    Now, when we recognize other marginalized people are also harmed by other language, we have two choices. We can choose to improve ourselves, or we can blame society for not being like it used to be. Racists chose the latter and are looked down on. Hopefully we can all continue to choose the the former as we grow in life. Just because we used to do things one way doesn’t mean that was good, and having done bad things in the past doesn’t make us bad. It’s what we choose in the present that matters. Now, go forward in life and make your choices. I can’t choose for you.

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      That would foster a bad community and may cause actual harm to people though, so we all recognize that it’s wrong.

      I guess we’ll have to disagree on that. Since no one would be forced to participate no one should be harmed.
      I am sure as an enjoyer of c/greentext you can appreciate the comedic value of such an unmoderated cesspool.

      When someone affected chimes in and actual harm is potentially caused I might reconsider my foul mouth. I am not going to censor myself proactively to goose step in line. Every word we give up to whoever “uses it wrong” gives them power. I am not going to do that.

      Good talk. Thanks for taking the time.

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        I am sure as an enjoyer of c/greentext you can appreciate the comedic value of such an unmoderated cesspool.

        As someone who used 4chan a very long time ago, I appreciate the comedic value in how much of a cesspit it is, not because the people there are valuable. I spent a while there seeing death threads (threads of video/images of people dying) and all kinds of other messed up things. Do I assume those things are good things for people to see though? Absolutely not.

        Every word we give up to whoever “uses it wrong” gives them power. I am not going to do that.

        First, we aren’t “losing” words because language changes. We gain many more instead.

        Second, who’s “them” that are gaining power. You seem to have an imaginary enemy you’re fighting. I can promise you you’ll lose because “they” aren’t real. No one is trying to control you. They’re only trying to keep you from harming other people. “They” also tell you not to assault people and you listen (I assume) despite it forcing you into a position you didn’t choose yourself.

        Being an asshole isn’t something to be proud of just because you’re sticking it to some made up enemy. You’re choosing to let a made up enemy control you instead by fighting against them instead of making choices for yourself.

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          Are you hallucinating? What does anything you wrote have to do with what I said?

          Maybe you should de-radicalize yourself, or idk, meet normal people irl.

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            I quoted exactly what I was referring to from your comment…

            Also, you’re one to talk. How about trying to not use ad hominems to try to dismiss someone’s arguments just because you don’t want to listen. If you have an issue understanding something, you can ask. I didn’t say anything particularly complex though.

            How is attempting to be polite radical? I’m not arguing I’m not “radicalized” (I pretty much am, and that’s not an insult), but this isn’t.

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              not because the people there are valuable.

              How is attempting to be polite radical?

              I think I have heard enough. Careful you might be a case for /c/meanwhileongrad

              If you truly think I have to listen to you you’re more delusional than I thought. I believe in IDIC. Just because I don’t understand the way you think doesn’t mean you aren’t valuable.

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                I think I have heard enough. Careful you might be a case for /c/meanwhileongrad

                I’m anti-authoritarianism, so no I don’t fit there. Sorry. I’m just pro-kindness.

                If you truly think I have to listen to you you’re more delusional than I thought.

                Where did I imply you have to listen to me? I’m pretty sure I explicitly said to make a choice for yourself. I just also said you can choose kindness and empathy, or you can choose selfishness because you are mad about change.

                I believe in IDIC. Just because I don’t understand the way you think doesn’t mean you aren’t valuable.

                Good. People will assume you don’t think they’re valuable if you use their condition as an insult though. They’ll assume that you think they’re lesser, because you’re saying being who they are is a bad thing. You understand how that could feel bad, right?

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                  I’m anti-authoritarianism

                  That’s a good one.

                  I’m just pro-kindness

                  dehumanizing people by stating they have no value is pro-kindness. News to me.

                  You understand how that could feel bad, right?

                  No, still think you are wrong. Have you heard black folk talk to each other, do they feel bad?

                  I know someone who would have been described as retarded in the past. I asked him, he doesn’t mind, he doubts any sane person with his disability would mind.
                  So stop being retarded yourself and stop advocating for groups you are not a part of that don’t want none of your screeching.

                  Coming into this instance, and stinking up the place. Other admins would have defederated, good thing we have a great admin.
                  (yes, hyperbole)

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                    dehumanizing people by stating they have no value is pro-kindness. News to me.

                    What? Quote me where I did that. I did not do that.

                    No, still think you are wrong. Have you heard black folk talk to each other, do they feel bad?

                    Wow, the “but they use that word!” argument. Context is important. Just like retard in music just means to slow down, how, when, and who uses words can change things.

                    I know someone who would have been described as retarded in the past. I asked him, he doesn’t mind, he doubts any sane person with his disability would mind.

                    Also, the “but I have a ___ friend” argument. Hitting all of the classics right now, aren’t you? One person does not make rule. I’ve heard from others that they don’t appreciate it.

                    So stop being retarded yourself and stop advocating for groups you are not a part of that don’t want none of your screeching.

                    Nice insults. Good argument. Which one of us is “screeching?”

                    I’ll advocate for every group. All people are valuable

                    Coming into this instance, and stinking up the place. Other admins would have defederated, good thing we have a great admin.
                    (yes, hyperbole)

                    Other admins would have defederated from what? All other instances? I’m from a pretty small technology focused instance. You think your admin should defederated from us? Why? Because you don’t like one person who’s trying to get you to be a better person? Doesn’t that seem a but much? Are you OK? You can talk about whatever’s bothering you.