It’s just super frustrating seeing people who are supposedly my brothers and sisters, who I’ve been there to the hilt, who know that my partner is struggling, who know that I’m terrified. We’ve gone through the science and racial and class inequalities together and they’ve voiced how they should mask a hundred times. And then they come to meet me IRL totally fucking unmasked, without even a fucking apology.
Well, if you’re “back to normal”, I’ll sit and watch you eat outside, but I’m not taking my mask off in front of you. I’ll wait till you finish your meal, and I’ll head home early. If I’ve complained about no masking two times already, you heard it enough, I’m not going to complain again.
Am I overreacting?
Edit: for those of griping that you’re not allowed to do COVID minimisation in this comm. These would be valid answer:
- Maybe your friend forgot
- Maybe your friend was tired
- Maybe your friend was hung over
- Your friend made a mistake but you should forgive him
- I’m not yet fully covid conscious, but I’m trying
- We can’t all be perfect. Hopefully they do better next time.
Not acceptable:
- Oh here’s a tidbit about masks that’s been disproven in the science literature 10x already
- Oh the chuds and libs aren’t masking, and I feel peer pressured
My local anti-corporate anti-cop, etc alt. pride event was masks-required and it really re-opened my eyes in a way. I still have masks, and try to use them in crowded places or if I feel off, but I’ve been slipping and I didn’t know a single person who is still masking like, on the daily. So going and seeing hey, here’s several thousand people (minimum) and all are masking, almost all with n/kn95, was really nice to see and makes me want to be more vigilant.
I don’t think you’re at all wrong to be disappointed. These aren’t random people, these are people who know you, know your situation, and still can’t just like, put a mask in their bag and wear it to see you? The whole “fear of covid” angle that libs love to take is bullshit. You don’t have to be afraid of something to take a basic precaution. I’m not afraid to ride my bike, even though statistically there’s a risk that I get maimed or killed by a car every time I ride it. But I do still usually wear a helmet (and n/kn95 masks straight up are probably more effective than helmets if some research I’ve seen is to be believed.) It’s not “fear” (or lack thereof) causing people not to mask, just social pressure and laziness.