sicko-wistful Feel like shit, just want him and his excessive emojis back.

EDIT: Jesus Christ guys

  • Egon [they/them]@hexbear.net
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    It wasn’t really the “getting mad” but more so the instant hostility and grudgekeeping that got to me. It was kinda fun seeing his deranged posts about mundane things, it just wasn’t so fun to see how he would have very obvious negative impact on people he interacted with. Especially because he was a power user, so he would often get a lot of support, while the person he was accusing of doing something would be alone. It took me a while to block him because it was nice to see him go off on chuds. He just went off on everyone, which sucked.

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      the instant hostility and grudgekeeping

      The thing that got me was that he absolutely kept grudges, but because he was such a prolific powerposter there was no way he could actually keep track of everyone he’d argued with, so sometimes he would haphazardly lump people into grudge groups, and act like they were all the same person. Especially right after federation, it was funny to see some lemmy person wander in and voice an opinion about a tv show or video game and have him go off on them, but it was pretty offputting when he would start referencing the whole history of beef that they supposedly had together, and the other person would be completely baffled.

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      To me it seemed like a bit, but I also just realised that for some reason his wrath was never directed at me, so I’m starting to think maybe I’m speaking from a privileged position.

      Yeah, I think you’re right. I don’t wanna Stan the guy anymore if he bullied my comrades. I should have paid more attention to it.

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        To me it seemed like a bit

        No I think he genuinely felt that strongly about Netflix shows and thought anyone who didn’t take his crusade against them seriously was part of some conspiracy to shut him up.

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          I got accused of being an alt of someone else who once disagreed with him. Dude seemed like he had legit paranoia, but if you pointed it out you got your comments removed (sometimes).

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        3 months ago

        Maybe. I might also just be salty. I have a hard time of letting go of negative interactions, especially ones I felt were “unfair” in some way

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        I think maybe he never got angry at you because everyone on here loves you (including me). He was just an asshole imo and nearly all of his posts were bitter and unpleasant, it was enver good vibes with him

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          No. He never yelled at me either. Apparently he had real problems with people who talked about pop culture though. Mainstream television and Cape shit specifically.

          i’m surprised everyone thought he was an ass, until i read some of the bullying stories in this thread.

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      Especially because he was a power user, so he would often get a lot of support, while the person he was accusing of doing something would be alone.

      I think this is the thing. If a guy goes off on how much you suck and then you see him being somewhat celebrated, it becomes a reminder that this is another place where you don’t really fit in.

      And honestly, I’m extremely awkward and don’t fit in perfectly in a lot of places and can still find joy, I just don’t like having reminders.

      edit like 40 minutes later - my posts in this thread are extremely hyperbolic and make it sound a lot worse than it actually was, the dialogue would be 100% normal on pretty much every other website. Stewing on something so small is not a normal person reaction and I really don’t like what it says about me that I still think about this today. Sometimes it’s just helpful to speak my bad emotions out loud.

      edit again just to get it out: The interaction was in a thread about the gameplay of the Harry Potter game. I commented that I didn’t understand why so many people here felt the need to give personal opinions trashing the gameplay of the Harry Potter game because that’s irrelevant to the meaningful reasons for avoiding it. I said that any person who did want a serious gameplay critique wouldn’t look to get that from a group people who, due to a negative opinion from the outset, are very unlikely to have invested much time. It comes across as sour grapes and waters down the legitimacy of the actual criticisms (namely that it promotes a horrible author).

      He quoted a couple bits that I did not feel were the core of my argument and said I was indistinguishable from a kid defending Jordan Peterson and then added in a Jordan Peterson emoji. Seeing that post get upbeared really got under my skin, I never got an explanation that actually made sense to me of what was wrong with what I said. I made a reply but it was entirely ignored.