He called me this morning to let me have it over the phone. Then he asked me if I wanted a ride to the store. Yeah man like I’m going to want to sit in the car with you while you tell me how much of a piece of shit I am then go grocery shop.
So now I’m out a trip to the store for who knows how long. Until this blows over which could be days.
I feel so small after this, I feel like I’m the world’s most shittiest person.
I’ve known people like that. They’re monsters. The snaps back to “nice/normal” are part of the abuse, setting you up to get hurt again.
That’s the thing, in like 2 days from now he’ll probably ask me how I’m doing and if I want to go for a ride.
That is part of the abuse. It’s deliberate, like a boxer lining up someone for another punch with a “rope a dope.”
Do you feel strong enough to push back in those moments that he’s berating you? Like someone else said, some people are so casual with their mean comments that they think people will snap back as quickly as they do. I get the impression that you are somewhat dependent on him at the moment, so if you can make the situation better by showing him you won’t just take the punches, it might be worth a shot.
Also, you are more than what he thinks of you- remember that. Good luck, comrade.
Thanks comrade.
And do you actually want to go for a ride or do you just feel obligated to?
I need to get to the store