• LordPassionFruit@lemm.ee
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      I grew up Catholic, and (at least here, Catholicism is a really big place) it’s not so much “he has money” as it is “he will bring stability.”

      The second commenter’s “cash cow” comment is a bit of an outlier in my experience, because usually the highlights of dating a nerd are more akin to the second comment. They’ll be an active father and attentive husband, and they’re less likely to cheat (in their view). I’ve also heard things like this about D&D/Warhammer players, because they use their imagination alot (making them good at entertaining children) and the hobbies take a lot of focus (meaning they’ll be willing and able to tackle problems that arise).

      Older catholics are used to men whose only role in the family is “produce baby and produce money”, so a lot of modern dating advice is in the guise of “make sure he’s a good man before you marry him”

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      Because most people nowadays see everything as a transaction, including “love”. You really can’t expect anything else in a society that sees everything through the prism of money.

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        Because most people nowadays see everything as a transaction

        Because most people conservatives nowadays see everything as a transaction

        FTFY

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            Define “liberal”. Many liberals these days are conservative rather than progressive, so I won’t disagree with your statement.

            Conservatives are not able to experience empathy for anyone outside of their in-group, so they tend to see every interaction with “others” as transactional.

            Conservatism is a vile plague of inhumanity, oppression and death and should be treated as such. It is due for a cure.

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              Conservatism is a vile plague of inhumanity, oppression and death and should be treated as such. It is due for a cure.

              And yet they seem to be the majority, or close to it. So one has to ask, why is that so many people turn to it. It has to give them value. And is that value real or perceived.

              For some it is very real, usually the exceptionally wealthy. Which means conservatism is profitable.

              Not having empathy for anyone outside of your in group would make it easy to dismiss or justify the fact that the first rule of capitalism is find a weakness and exploit it

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                Conservativism and Capitalism are closely tied. They both profit from people’s weaknesses and flaws.

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        But more so that Catholics and other fundamentalists expect the man to be the provider, and largely base the worth of the man on how much money he makes. If you think that’s gross and demeaning, then don’t fucking date Catholics lol

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          Really? I thought Catholicism was about Jesus, sharing, caring, love… guess I was wrong… who would have thought that a religion that is allegedly supposed to spread piece and love, would be all about money, huh 🤔.

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            When has Catholicism never been about money? They literally have codified paying your way into heaven for nearly 2000 years with “indulgences” lol

            It’s like one of the most blatant examples of a corrupt religion being used to control and siphon money from people, it has one of the most well documented, terrible histories.