The kid supposedly just walked up and punched my kid in the cheek in class, and chased them with scissors just a few days ago (corroborated by the teacher).
I know shit happens, and they’re a resilient kid, so it’s not too big a deal. But I also want to raise hell to get this kid away from them. What’s the next incident going to be?
I understand the structural and societal issues here - the kid probably doesn’t have a great home life, and the school doesn’t really have anything they can do that will help him.
Idk, just feeling conflicted and looking for thoughts.
When I was in 5th grade a kid let me borrow a cassette tape, that I then lost somewhere. He started leaving messages on my parents answering machine like, “You better bring my tape tomorrow, or I’ll beat your ass”. My parents were always on me about losing stuff, so I felt like I couldn’t tell them I lost the tape, so I lied and said I never had it. I wasn’t being bullied, but my dad thought I was.
My dad tried was trying to get me to stand up to the kid, but I wasn’t equipped for that. It made everything worse. I probably could have talked my way out of it or avoided it, but my dad was insistent on meeting violence with violence. He basically bullied me to make calls to the kid and threaten him back. Of course it was completely unconvincing because I cried through it. It traumatized me and made me actually get bullied at school.
That’s not really an answer to the question, I just wanted to give my input that not every kid is capable of fighting back against bullies. I think sometimes you can only try to get the school to intervene.
Thank you for weighing in! That sounds really hard; I’m sorry you had to deal with that.