• femtech
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    3 months ago

    Parents that beat their kids don’t really love them. They are releasing their anger on their kids. My mom left bruises and welts from the belt until I pushed her into a wall. I have also never hit my kid now that I have one. Because I take the time to chill myself before punishment.

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      3 months ago

      Not all corporal punishment by parents is “beating”. I was belted, but it wasn’t done out of anger (maybe only sometimes). It was just a misguided method of disciplining, done “for my benefit”.

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        3 months ago

        I have never seen, heard, or talked to anyone that spanked their kid after waiting for 20min. It’s always been in the heat of the moment. It’s a power exchange. An outdated punishment just like making kids eat castor oil, being denied food, or poisoning their kids by making them put soap in their mouth.

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          You assume that all corporal punishment comes from anger. And you also assume all corporal punishment is beating kids. A lot of parents hit their children as a conscious act of disciplining.

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              Sure. But still not all of them do it out of anger. In fact, I’m hopeful that most don’t. Because if you hit children because you’re angry, you’re an asshole, but if you hit children as a means to discipline then you’re just a misguided parent.