I know I can over share. I know I say things way too “deep” for neutrotypicals. I know how I take small talk into big talk with just one sentence. What are ways that you keep yourself aware in conversation to just be casual. I imagine something small to fidget with that isn’t obvious and I can use to keep me centered on being not so outright. Obviously I don’t like wearing anything but maybe something like a normal but moving or spinning finger ring would help, I can always take it off.
Is this something you guys experience, maybe recognize now, or have realized this behavior and have some mechanism to stay “normal”?
It takes practice, but a good approach is not to go beyond a few sentences on a topic at a time. Give them a chance to change the direction of the conversation (which will happen if they are not interested) or ask follow-up questions (typically indicates that they are interested, although sometimes it may just be that they are being polite, in which case you’ll usually only get one or two before the other person moves on to something else). As one of the other comments says, it’s a dialogue, not a monologue - most of the time the other person isn’t engaging to get information from you but to connect with you (and yeah, that can be a really nebulous concept at times!). It’s really easy to infodump but most people don’t have the context or depth of knowledge to follow a deep dive on a subject.