Something that stood out to me about HealthyGamer’s concerns was how he was talking about, like, if you get your sexual needs met by yourself you’ll be disincentivized from getting your sexual needs met from other people — that bit struck me as kind of “allonormative” is maybe the word I’m looking for. Not that I think most gooners are a-spec or anything like that, but I still feel like the way HealthyGamer was talking, kind of implied or reinforced this idea that it is somehow necessary for people to be sexually and romantically attracted to others, and that being able to fulfill your sexual needs entirely by yourself is somehow unnatural or necessarily bad.