I’m not sure I should start this conversation and I’ve been rewriting this a lot lol. But I could use some relating and opinions from fellow internet leftists

Ok so, to keep it really simple: I happened to share a meal with somebody I really liked. I have interacted casually (no flirting) for about a dozen minutes total and we exchanged contact because of shared-interests (not dating)

Now my brain is fried

I’m thinking about her way too much and it gives be bad vibes, she probably has no idea and I can’t imagine the sheer horror of realising that someone is thinking this much about you after so little interaction.

I want to be a well-behaved straight (kinda bi but that’s beyond the point) guy, I’m trying to be an ally to the feminist cause, so, failing this spectacularly at behaving normally in relation to women disgust me. I know I can’t remove the patriarchy from my body but I damn wish I could.

  • PM_ME_YOUR_FOUCAULTS [he/him, they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
    23·
    3 months ago

    It’s okay. Thoughts don’t harm anyone, even ones much worse than the ones you’re having. It is also okay to be attracted to someone even if it’s not necessarily reciprocated. I also think it’s pretty normal to get bowled over by someone you just met, especially you’re love-starved.

    I really empathize with your desire to be a good straight guy. And it sucks how much baggage gets put on you because of the awful, sexist society that we live in. But you don’t have to own it all either.

    • lil_tank [any, he/him]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
      16·
      3 months ago

      And it sucks how much baggage gets put on you because of the awful, sexist society that we live in. But you don’t have to own it all either.

      Very well put. I really don’t want to play the violin like “waaaah it’s hard being forced into the oppressor’s role when you’re a nice little leftist!!!” but I’m happy to see people relate