• Death_Equity@lemmy.world
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    3 months ago

    “Why can’t you give up untold amounts of money, free time, peace/quiet, lack of stress, and freedom so I can have my grandkids around for a few hours a week? Stop being so selfish.”

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      Also, why don’t you want to bring new human beings in a world that we have destroyed, that will struggle when I’ll be gone and you’ll be powerless to help? So selfish

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      These are also the people who either disappear anytime their kids need help with the kids, or else were such terrible parents they’re the last person on earth their kids would leave alone with their children.

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    I don’t know if I find it more abhorrent that someone would proudly display an opinion so needlessly angry, or that there exists a company that is profiting off these assholes by providing such a miserable sticker.

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      But…that’s realistically where they ACTUALLY are. If the grandchild is already inside the daughters overies, that means she’s already pregnant. Which means, in order to be selfish, that would mean she’s just NOT allowing a 9+ month old child to be born. Like the contractions start, and the mother shoves her hand in, and shoves the kid back up there.

      “Oh no you don’t! You STAY in there!!! I don’t care if it’s been 96 months! MOMMIES STILL PREGNANT!!!”

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        Okay, there are just multiple layers of bad women’s anatomy in the original post and in the comments.

        Eggs are in the ovaries. Without hormonal birth control, generally one egg (but sometimes more and sometimes none) is released from the ovary, travels down the fallopian tube, and if it is fertilized, implants in the uterus. If it is not fertilized, it passes out of the uterus, the uterine lining is shed (that’s menstruation), and the process repeats the following month.

        There is no “grandchild” in an ovary, any more than there is a “grandchild” in a testicle.

        And if a fertilized egg implants anywhere outside the uterus, that’s an ectopic pregnancy – which is not viable because only the uterus has the capability to grow with and provide nourishment to a developing fetus. Not only that, but ectopic pregnancies are generally fatal to the mother (or however that person identifies).

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          There is some bad woman’s anatomy here too. The egg is broken down and reabsorbed before menstruation starts.

          Menstruation happens when the lutheal body desintigrates. Ending the fake pregnancy effect it has. Since there is no embryo to continue the process, the lack of progesterone gets detected as a non-viable pregnancy resultong in a fake miscarriage.

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        I mean, the kids are neither in a ballsack nor the ovaries.

        If you consider a fertilized egg a child, which you shouldn’t, they would be in the uterus.

        If it’s inside an ovary, the mother’s going to die.

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          You guys need some anatomy lessons. Women are born with all the oocytes (eggs) they will ever have. They don’t make them on demand like dudes do sperm. So it is entirely accurate to say any children a woman will have are already in her ovaries, barring circumstances like surrogacy, adoption, etc.

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                Which is what I said in my post that uid0grid0 responded to, saying that I needed anatomy lessons.

                Sperm is not a child.
                An egg is not a child.
                A fertilized egg is also not a child, but some people think it is.

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                  Some people also don’t take this anywhere that serious and y’all’s conversation seems really silly. Nobody on Lemmy (within reason, I’m sure there are idiots here too) is going to seriously argue that either gamete is a child.

                  These types of conversations are the ones that make me question just how prevalent autism is on Lemmy. People engage in wordplay and don’t literally mean what they say all the time yet these types of comments are 90% on posts like this.

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    My selfish daughter won’t go through childbirth, and raise a child to adulthood and beyond in a world that is getting harder to live in so I can be “gran-gran.” The bitch. /s

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    there are quite a few people who seem to want to be mothers more than they want to actually have kids.

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          If all it takes to horrify your palate is carbonating some pasta sauce, then for your own mental health, never ever ever ever ever ask a black person what “chitlins” are.

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            I’ve spent most of my life in the South, I absolutely know what chitlins are. They ain’t great but they are what they’re intended to be: making the most out of whatever you can afford.

            I’m also Italian-American. Carbonated pasta sauce was intended for no man. It would be an abomination against God and nature.

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        But fewer humans would be a good thing. We’re not going anywhere, might as well live within reason.

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            Lots of people are. The big advent of the modern century has been keeping more people alive longer, not having more kids.

            We just happened to be born into a generation that had a glut of human labor without savvy administration to guide its usefulness.

            The next generation will be leaner. But the generation after? Who can say? 8B is a lot of people. I don’t think humanity is just winking out because we drop below replacement leave.

            Lots of other people are still having kids. It’s not on any one person or even one nation to worry about.

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              My decision was more around recognizing as a teenager that due to my upbringing I did not have the tools to properly raise a well adjusted human being. And rather than make the same mistake my parents did, I just opted out.

              I got to help raise a step son later in life and think I did a decent job. But I’ve never regretted my decision to not have my own biological children.

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    As a selfish daughter, I think this is hilarious tbh.

    But I also have a mother who understands and fully supports my and my partner’s reproductive choices and I probably would not feel that way if circumstances were different.

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    please stop being selfish and suffer 360 days of the year so that I can play with my grandchildren the remaining 5 days

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    Dude I’d love to have kids but I’m fuckin broke with no career. The selfish thing for me to do is have kids anyway and leave them with my parents.