I enjoy my house, and my things, and use them often. I enjoy my home life. I still feel the need to go out and experience the world beyond my tiny bubble. I get great joy simply out of breaking up my routine, meeting new people, seeing new places, going to local gathering spots. When I am done with all that I also have the benefit of socializing without having a pile of dishes to do either.
Your assessment is right for some people, and you probably have contact with a group that leads to a bias in believing this is what people, generally, who need to do things beyond their house, are like. It is not true for most though. Most people like their homes, and home lives, a lot. They also feel the need to go out and do something other than home life, regularly, in order to be happy, in the long term. Doesn’t matter how awesome my house is, doesn’t matter how many skills I am working on, or how many hobbies I have, if I don’t do something out of the ordinary, on a fairly regular basis, life begins to feel dull, and no amount of improving my home will alleviate that.
What I said was that only later I found out (well, more like “realised”) that there are also a bunch of folk that are miserable in their home environment (like living in a shoebox apartment or a house they just mentally arent able to customise it to their preference).
Yes, there are a lot of people like that. They have psychiatric issues, usually depression. They could just be poor, and don’t have the means to make their house, their home, yet. They might be in the stages before drinking themselves to sleep, every night, alone, at home. Most people are not like that though. Novelty is a key element to stimulation, most people need it, this is why they go out, meet new people, go new places, etc., routines are nice until that element is no longer being fulfilled. Then it just becomes a rut.
I enjoy my house, and my things, and use them often. I enjoy my home life. I still feel the need to go out and experience the world beyond my tiny bubble. I get great joy simply out of breaking up my routine, meeting new people, seeing new places, going to local gathering spots. When I am done with all that I also have the benefit of socializing without having a pile of dishes to do either.
Your assessment is right for some people, and you probably have contact with a group that leads to a bias in believing this is what people, generally, who need to do things beyond their house, are like. It is not true for most though. Most people like their homes, and home lives, a lot. They also feel the need to go out and do something other than home life, regularly, in order to be happy, in the long term. Doesn’t matter how awesome my house is, doesn’t matter how many skills I am working on, or how many hobbies I have, if I don’t do something out of the ordinary, on a fairly regular basis, life begins to feel dull, and no amount of improving my home will alleviate that.
Yes, “you people” were my default assumption.
What I said was that only later I found out (well, more like “realised”) that there are also a bunch of folk that are miserable in their home environment (like living in a shoebox apartment or a house they just mentally arent able to customise it to their preference).
Yes, there are a lot of people like that. They have psychiatric issues, usually depression. They could just be poor, and don’t have the means to make their house, their home, yet. They might be in the stages before drinking themselves to sleep, every night, alone, at home. Most people are not like that though. Novelty is a key element to stimulation, most people need it, this is why they go out, meet new people, go new places, etc., routines are nice until that element is no longer being fulfilled. Then it just becomes a rut.
Most people dont know how to find novelty in old thongs.
And some people cannot form routines.