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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/-DragonEnergy- on 2023-08-07 22:25:15.

So I’ve met this girl at the gym who I’ll call “Katie”, and she seemed cool at first other than the fact she likes to share her personal sex life. She’s talked about BDSM clubs she and her husband go to, and their toy collection, and other weird stuff that I’m not into. She’s invited my husband and I over for strip poker, and I’ve told her no, we are vanilla and not into that stuff.

Recently, her husband texted her asking her to send 5 pictures of girls butts at the gym to him. One of the girls noticed and reported her to the front desk, and also made her delete the picture. Katie texted me about it, mad at the girl for going to the employees there instead of talking to her. I told her it was highly inappropriate and she was lucky she didn’t get banned from the gym. She said it was “just a joke” and didn’t seem to understand you cannot do that without people’s consent.

She will send me selfies of her and her husband (clothes/in bathing suits at the beach) and whatnot and I have such the ick towards her and mostly him now. I don’t like people who involve others in their kinks without consent….

Fast forward and I find out her husband is texting me pretending to be her, and she thinks it’s all fine. I find it weird as fuck, as I would never use my husbands phone to text his friends pretending to be him and vice versa.

Just the other day at the gym, she asks when we’re going to double date and is getting upset we haven’t yet. I’m avoiding it at all costs and my husband now doesn’t want to be around her, and especially not her husband. He is uncomfortable with me being around him as well.

WIBTA if I tell her this? I don’t know what to do, I’ve never been in this predicament.