Hello all,

Since @CARCOSA@hexbear.net has done me the courtesy of reversing my temp ban, I am taking @kristina@hexbear.net up on her invitation to self criticize (although we now know this comm is NOT for inviting others to self crit).

In short, I was BIG MAD because some of the statements put out by the mod team during the tank comm debacle hit way too close to home for reasons I won’t get into here, and I took them extremely personally. In the midst of posting furiously about this, I repeatedly misgendered CARCOSA (I’ve now edited what I can of this, but the modlog contains a record for anyone who would care to see). I assumed that I knew their pronouns, when I should have checked if I wasn’t sure, because I was focused on posting and my own outrage. This is bitterly ironic, because I was angry in particular at what I felt were invalidating statements from the mod team regarding my own gender and sexuality, and yet this led me to invalidate the identity of someone else. In doing this I failed in a basic courtesy that I owe to people in general, and the other members of this site in particular. I would like to therefore apologize to CARCOSA and anyone else who was harmed by witnessing the misgendering. I further regret that I was unable to make this apology in a more timely fashion due to being temp banned.

I promise to do my utmost to do better in the future and hope that everyone here will continue to hold me accountable.