• Dragon Rider (drag)@lemmy.nz
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    15 hours ago

    Drag is very forgiving when a trans person is upset they’ve been misgendered. Growing up as the wrong gender is traumatic. It can literally give you cPTSD and personality disorders. Being triggered because you feel like you’re back in that situation is a completely understandable response. Drag uses gender neutral “guys”, but acknowledges that it’s a dangerous practice, and if you hurt someone then you need to own it. They don’t owe anyone politeness in that moment. If drag didn’t like that responsibility, drag wouldn’t take risks with other people’s mental health.

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      3 hours ago

      Out of curiosity, have your therapist told you ever about the dangers of using third person pronoun when expressing yourself? Like it strengthens the disassociation between you and your body and mind, etc. etc? If not, please change them.

      This is coming from a genuine place, I’m not trying to be sarcastic or mean.

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        3 hours ago

        Fortunately, drag doesn’t use third person pronouns for dragself. You assumed they were third person because you’re only used to seeing that conjugation with third person. But conjugation doesn’t have a relationship to grammatical person in English. One form of conjugation can apply in multiple persons.