• drosophila@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    301·
    1 day ago

    NTs when you say you wish social rules were either explained more explicitly or else your worth as a human being wasn’t tied to correctly following them:

    Sorry that’s literally impossible. Also its not that bad, you just need to try harder. I have no idea why so many of you kill yourselves.

    NTs after a few months of living in another country where the rules are different:

    Depression, panic attacks, sometimes even full on mental breakdowns.

    • threshold_dweller@lemmy.todayEnglish
      6·
      9 hours ago

      Ironically, I’m better than my peers at getting along in other countries… Because I’m used to looking for the unwritten rules.

      I’ve had to explain other peoples’ behaviors to my peers at work because they havent had to study how to act like I have. Most people just never talk about this stuff.

  • Boomkop3@reddthat.com
    3·
    18 hours ago

    That just made me realise…
    …no they don’t

    Neurovanilla’s haven’t the faintest clue most of the time

      • Boomkop3@reddthat.com
        5·
        9 hours ago

        And that might just be why so many of us get confused. We notice when we don’t know. Most neurovanilla’s just seem to think they know (and strongly believe so :p)

        Yet few can actually explain what they’re doing or seeing. So it’s probably a spectrum of how insightful people can be. Neurodivergent or not

        • Dadifer@lemmy.world
          4·
          9 hours ago

          So, about half the inane banter that you hear NTs doing, where you’re like, “why are they talking about such stupid crap?” is actually an exchange and reinforcement of cultural norms. If you don’t participate in “small talk”, then you are missing the very subtle cultural indoctrination.

          • jjjalljs@ttrpg.network
            4·
            6 hours ago

            I mean … small talk is often like an initial authorization step or health check. You ping the server “are you up?” before sending your large payload. If the server is down or under too heavy load to handle your request, you probably want to know sooner than later.

          • Boomkop3@reddthat.com
            4·
            9 hours ago

            Yep, even when they don’t like 'm. I’ve learned a lot of them don’t dare to diverge from those norms regardless. It appears to be a mixture of fear and lack of understanding that locks them into certain behaviours.

            Gotta have some bravery to set standards for yourself