• Hadriscus@lemm.ee
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    9 hours ago

    It isn’t an “answer” to anything, it is necessary for a feeling of safety and togetherness in certain vulnerable people at certain times. You must get past the fact that you weren’t invited and accept that this is good for some of us. Give in a little, and take in so much more in the long run

    • nomy@lemmy.zip
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      2 hours ago

      Hard to be an ally when you’re excluded. Hard to even want to be an ally when you’re told you’re part of the problem.

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        2 hours ago

        You’re not excluded, you’re just not included. You’re not meant to be part of everything in society, that doesn’t make you an enemy. Try getting over it and being an ally regardless

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          1 hour ago

          I’m doing my thing and preparing, Ive got a nice little circle around me. Unfortunately a lot of people are hung up on identity politics instead of actually organizing and putting in work.

          I’m an accomplice, not an ally. Too bad too many people are stuck on themselves to figure it out.

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        2 hours ago

        Im a guy. Im excluded from mothers groups. Is that really a bad thing when I can’t offer the group anything as Im not a mother?

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          1 hour ago

          I think you as a father could probably learn a lot from mothers, so yeah it’s kind of fucked up to be excluded.

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            1 hour ago

            I have no kids. If the purpose of the mother’s group is for mothers to share their problems then I have nothing to offer.

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              15 minutes ago

              Why assume you have something to offer them when the opposite is likely truer.