• FauxLiving@lemmy.world
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    1 day ago

    that is a pretty clear red flag

    This isn’t a red flag, this is a predictable psychological response:

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bystander_effect

    The bystander effect, or bystander apathy, is a social psychological theory that states that individuals are less likely to offer help to a victim in the presence of other people.

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      20 hours ago

      Alternatively: op was not a suave and clever as he thought, has very obviously been macking on this woman, looked at her, took a sip from his gym sippy cup, spat red shit on the floor at her feet and then stared at her.

      I’d fucken run too

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      21 hours ago

      I mean I do understand the sense of weaker responsibility when there are other people around especially those who are immediately responsive and seem like they know what they are doing. But being the first one to witness a distressing event and vacating the premises immediately without informing even the staff is an outlier example, even for this theory imo. Just to note though we are probably discussing this over some made up story.

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        20 hours ago

        Just to note though we are probably discussing this over some made up story.

        Assuming ‘fake and gay’ is the default in the land of greentext.