An undercover police officer used his fake identity to deceive a woman into a 19-year relationship in which they became partners and had a child together, the Guardian can reveal.

The officer concealed his real identity from the woman for the duration of that period, never telling her his real occupation, and using his fictitious identity on the birth certificate of their son.

In 2020, after the couple were engaged to be married, the woman discovered that her fiance, whom she believed to be a businessman, was in fact a police officer who had subjected her to a sophisticated deception lasting almost two decades.

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    1 year ago

    Learning “all this”? That the father has a different name and job? Is that even relevant to their relationship? It has been 19 years. You can blame him for not telling her in the first months, after his undercover thing was over. After that he just rolled with it. That is it. Zero trust issues.

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      1 year ago

      I agree. Your name is the least important part of your identity.

      If my spouse told me that she actually had a different name on her birth certificate then I wouldn’t bat an eye. In fact, I would probably continue using the “fake” name, because why not.

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        1 year ago

        Are y’all fucking stupid? You’re fine with getting lied to for 19 years? About literally the most basic of information? How the fuck could you believe anything this professional liar told you?!

        This wasn’t him using his middle name or a nickname from childhood. Jesus Christ the lengths people will go to to justify the horrors of modern policing.

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          Your name is what you want people to call you. What’s on the birth certificate is irrelevant. Plenty of people introduce themselves as something not on the birth certificate. That doesn’t make them liars.

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              1 year ago

              So you can neither recognize humans nor actual police horrors.

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                I mean bro you just talked about birth certificates so I guess the real answer is that you’re dumber than a fancy autocomplete algorithm.

                Imagine thinking that being lied to for 19 years about the very basics of your identity isn’t a horror. Fuck off pig lover.