I didn’t say “dump hours into being their best friend”, just don’t open up with pickup lines. Get to know them. Learn if they’re even a compatible personality type with you before you try getting in their pants.
I wish I knew how to respond to this in a way that wouldn’t label me an incel but fuck it here goes.
That’s exactly what I do. I don’t even hit on a girl until I know I like her personality. I’ll come on to them blatantly stating I’m interested in dating them. Most of the time they act interested. They respond positively. I’ll even take them out somewhere nice and we’ll have a great time.
Next thing I know they stop responding as much and lo and behold. They got a boyfriend.
Idk wtf I’m doing wrong and it’s really fuckin hard not to get pissed when it happens multiple times in a row.
I don’t think you’re doing anything wrong in that case. It doesn’t always work out, and it can very frustrating when you think it’s working out and it blows up in your face (or just disappears entirely)
It’s just important not to bring that frustration to the table next time. And it’s normal to take a step back and say “nevermind I’m not gonna worry about this”
Just keep your head up, man. One day you’ll come across somebody who wants it to work with you, and will make sure does.
I didn’t say “dump hours into being their best friend”, just don’t open up with pickup lines. Get to know them. Learn if they’re even a compatible personality type with you before you try getting in their pants.
I wish I knew how to respond to this in a way that wouldn’t label me an incel but fuck it here goes.
That’s exactly what I do. I don’t even hit on a girl until I know I like her personality. I’ll come on to them blatantly stating I’m interested in dating them. Most of the time they act interested. They respond positively. I’ll even take them out somewhere nice and we’ll have a great time.
Next thing I know they stop responding as much and lo and behold. They got a boyfriend.
Idk wtf I’m doing wrong and it’s really fuckin hard not to get pissed when it happens multiple times in a row.
I just don’t even fuckin try anymore
I don’t think you’re doing anything wrong in that case. It doesn’t always work out, and it can very frustrating when you think it’s working out and it blows up in your face (or just disappears entirely)
It’s just important not to bring that frustration to the table next time. And it’s normal to take a step back and say “nevermind I’m not gonna worry about this”
Just keep your head up, man. One day you’ll come across somebody who wants it to work with you, and will make sure does.