Does anybody else do this?

I’ve finally realized that the weird imbalance I feel in every relationship I actually care about is that I am far more deeply interested in other people than they are me. I’ve come to the realization that I make other people a special interest for myself, and that it hurts me when they don’t reciprocate this thing that they admittedly never asked for but do happily soak up.

What do?

I’m finally going to have to scrape up the money for therapy and the courage to actually talk to someone other than an anonymous internet rando about this, aren’t I? You guys can’t actually tell me the magic words to fix me, right?

I am not loving it

  • UlyssesT [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    1 year ago

    I’ve found that it helps to remember to value yourself, not to the exclusion of other people, but so you can provide emotional energy for other people in a sustainable way. It also helps prevent others from abusing or otherwise taking advantage of you if you see yourself as being worth protecting too, not just a sacrifice for the sake of other people.