• Cossty@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    If I am forcing myself to do it, it’s not a hobby. I already have hobbies that I want to do and they take over all of my free time. All of them are best done at home and alone.

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      1 year ago

      If your goal is to make friends and your current way isn’t working, you will have to force yourself to change. There just isn’t any other way.

      Friends don’t fall from the sky. You have to put in time and effort in any type of human relationship. That is just how things are.

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        1 year ago

        He didn’t say his goal was to make friends. I’m the same way, and I’m happier than I’ve ever been putting my efforts into myself instead of other people.

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            1 year ago

            I don’t know anyone who is too well put together to require company and support

            How could you know that? Do you ask every acquaintance about their emotional support?

            talking things through with others can be the most important thing you can do for your own happiness.

            I’ve actually found that process to be frustrating more than anything. Distraction and exercise are far more effective coping methods for me. Venting just gets me worked up all over again.

    • Sotuanduso@lemm.ee
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      1 year ago

      Okay, maybe try striking up conversations during slow times at work? It doesn’t have to be a hobby, that’s just one of the better ways in many cases.