• Godort@lemm.ee
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    94
    ·
    1 year ago

    Man I wish.

    Getting everyone to agree on a date and time for D&D is harder than any encounter you could face in-game

      • Damdy@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        7
        ·
        1 year ago

        Plan the activity with a smaller group than you would want initially. Then invite others to an already organized event and rely on fomo to get people to go. Works great.

      • SolarNialamide@lemm.ee
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        2
        ·
        1 year ago

        I have two small friend groups of four and in both is someone who often works weekend, so that’s always fun trying to plan something, let alone if I want to have both groups somewhere. It was honestly a miracle I could get all 6 of them in one place at the same time somewhat close to my birthday.

    • Zarek2472@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      26
      ·
      1 year ago

      The way myself and my party does it is we play every other week on Saturday from 6pm to 10pm. This way everyone knows the schedule and can plan around it. If people can’t clear their schedule to play then we replace them. It’s harsh but it’s the only way I found to play D&D consistently.

      And I myself have excused myself from a game because my life schedule changed and couldn’t keep the commitment I had previously and it would be too much work for the rest of the party to change their schedules.

      • rockSlayer@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        11
        ·
        edit-2
        1 year ago

        Harsh but fair. It ensures that everyone can work their schedule out in advance, while also presenting clear expectations for participating in a voluntary hobby. Is there a consecutive number of missing sessions before being replaced? If not, how does the DM work it out in the campaign?

      • bearwithastick@feddit.ch
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        10
        ·
        edit-2
        1 year ago

        You have to be harsh, otherwise nobody gets to play. When we started our new group we made sure to inform everyone that playing DnD is not to be treated as a secondary hobby that can just be canceled for other stuff all the time. Make it your priority, plan other things around the sessions if you want to play with that group. Of course, any emergencies excluded but otherwise treat it as if it is your sport club training. If you miss too many sessions, you’re out.

        I know this sounds super arrogant and mean, but it’s the only thing that works consistently. Also filters out friends who are not ready or able to commit that much time for playing.

      • snuff@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        1
        ·
        1 year ago

        I only run west marches style games now. The pcs need to be back in town by end of session or miss out on carousing or possibly worse depending on where they are. Each game is self contained so people can drop or join as they want.

        • AngryCommieKender@lemmy.world
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          2
          arrow-down
          1
          ·
          edit-2
          1 year ago

          I’ve found that few people can resist the call of “New York Style Cheesecake Stuffed, Chocolate Covered, Graham Cracker Rolled, Strawberries.”

          I have had friends say they put on a pound just reading the name, lol.

    • smeg@feddit.uk
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      9
      ·
      1 year ago

      You’ve got to get people to commit to a weekly slot, ad-hoc sessions lead to madness

    • Senseless@feddit.de
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      8
      ·
      1 year ago

      It’s been over a year and there are still two people that haven’t finished their damn character sheets.

    • Doug [he/him]
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      7
      ·
      1 year ago

      Or even just a board game night.

      Maybe it just means boring guys. Drinking is a secondary activity, not a primary one.

      • Donkter@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        9
        ·
        1 year ago

        Yeah this convo is either saying they’re going to a bar which can be fun. Or they’re 18-22 and drinking is as much about buying the alcohol as it is imbibing it.

  • Jay@sh.itjust.works
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    64
    ·
    1 year ago

    When I was a student, a friend texted me one evening:

    “Tequila. Name of our usual bar. Now.”

    I replied “OK” and was there 20 minutes later. She was a little surprised, but learned exactly the lesson of this post that evening.

    • LemmyPlay@lemmings.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      1
      ·
      1 year ago

      Proximity really makes friendships better, and at least easier. Some of the best memories are made on a whim. And even with the busiest people you can have a better chance of seeing them with a spontaneous text versus a long-term plan.

  • Mr_Blott@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    26
    ·
    1 year ago

    When I was a lad, it was two words, the first with a question mark, the second with a full stop

    Pint?

    Pint.

  • kameecoding@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    9
    arrow-down
    1
    ·
    1 year ago

    too bad I don’t drink anymore, well actually I drank this Saturday while celebrating a friend’s birthday but I literally can’t remember when I drank before that, probably like my birthday in May.

  • Emerald@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    2
    ·
    edit-2
    1 year ago

    Image Transcription: Text and Text Messages


    This is how easy it is for guys to make plans.

    Left: I drink tonight

    Right: I drink

    Left: You drink with me

    Right: I drink with you

    Left: We drink

  • jopepa@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    2
    ·
    edit-2
    1 year ago

    The spanish class speaking test that concerned Sra. Rodgers enough to call our parents.