An oldie, but a goodie

  • crackajack@reddthat.com
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    11 months ago

    You can be angry without being rude. I’d much prefer passive aggressiveness than egregious blame-shifting and accusations.

    • oce 🐆@jlai.lu
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      11 months ago

      You don’t need to be passive agressive either, you can just be polite and factual.

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          11 months ago

          Exactly. I’ve worked under terrible managers and some great ones. Great ones get pissed off but they never, ever try and let emotions out. They were all to the point and knew what worked for every guy.

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            11 months ago

            No, not at all. I appreciate that of her. She doesn’t even look scary when I’m being told off. Which is why I put the word angry in quotation marks. She tries to sound angry and look scary but we kind of brush it off. Not that I didn’t respect her authority.

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      11 months ago

      I hate passive-aggressiveness, because I want to know what people really think of me. How can you feel secure if you know that somebody might secretly hate you and is just waiting for the right time to put a knife in your back?

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        11 months ago

        Both are bad IMO. Sometimes when morale is low, you don’t need constant berating to break your spirit.

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        11 months ago

        Being polite doesn’t mean being passive-aggressive. I can tell you that I completely disagree with your opinion without calling you “a brainless ape that should’ve fucking stayed in school because your dumb ass cannot comprehend the simplest matters”.

      • wildginger@lemmy.myserv.one
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        11 months ago

        If you cant tell the difference between passive aggression and politeness, you gotta talk to someone about learning. Big big big difference there.

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        11 months ago

        Being directly a cunt actually causes sabotaging employees who work the minimum letter of the contract until they can quit via a text 5 minutes after start of day because they got another job lined up.

        Dumb managers poison the well by acting like this.

      • onlinepersona@programming.dev
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        11 months ago

        If you can’t express yourself without expletives, it just means you have a small vocabulary or lack the maturity to express yourself without getting emotional, or both. It is a major sign of incompetence, unprofessionalism, and ignorance.

        Direct != being an asshole. If you don’t understand that, you have a lot to learn.