I have never seen one person who didn’t take the first no, who then proceeded to understand any of the other noes. Them throwing an adult tantrum and promptly leaving is the good ending. Maybe ignoring any answer you don’t like isn’t brilliant advice in general.
Or maybe you could just try and be a human being, not an overly simplistic social algorithm, and try to understand whether there’s actually any realistic chance for that no to become a yes, and how.
Social interactions are complex and this kind of reddit teenager “wisdom” is completely inadequate.
If it’s a shy, non-commital “no”, with zero followup explaining any reasons they don’t want to, then sure maybe another ask is in order.
If it’s a solid “no”, or they start listing off excuses or reasons after a tepid no… They probably actually don’t want it. It COULD be something like anxiety making them say, “no” and stammer out some weak excusable excuses, but that is rare compared to someone who just wants to politely say no.
Try again. The woman I’ve been with for over a decade originally said no as well.
But don’t think that life is like a 90s romantic comedy and go full stalker.
Nah break into her house and raid her underwear drawer, you’ll seem quirky.
Yeah, I just said try again, and not again and again and again either
I have never seen one person who didn’t take the first no, who then proceeded to understand any of the other noes. Them throwing an adult tantrum and promptly leaving is the good ending. Maybe ignoring any answer you don’t like isn’t brilliant advice in general.
Or maybe you could just try and be a human being, not an overly simplistic social algorithm, and try to understand whether there’s actually any realistic chance for that no to become a yes, and how.
Social interactions are complex and this kind of reddit teenager “wisdom” is completely inadequate.
Try again yes but with a different woman.
This depends entirely on the nature of the, “no”.
If it’s a shy, non-commital “no”, with zero followup explaining any reasons they don’t want to, then sure maybe another ask is in order.
If it’s a solid “no”, or they start listing off excuses or reasons after a tepid no… They probably actually don’t want it. It COULD be something like anxiety making them say, “no” and stammer out some weak excusable excuses, but that is rare compared to someone who just wants to politely say no.