it’s just you hear so many horror stories about it all. both about the apps themselves and just from people’s bad relationships in general. it’s a huge life change to go from single to actively going on dates [or whatever the term is], i feel like, because you’re being emotionally vulnerable, which is important / challenging, and committing to a lasting thing ostensibly as well. and i’d have to make sure my apartment is cleaner in all the specific neat little ways.
i mean i want to message back but every time it’s like i stress myself out and overanalzye what they said and what i should say and i can’t even enjoy it – does anyone enjoy that part?
Sadly for some people, for instance people with anxiety, depression or some kinda disabilities, also people who are rural, that’s not really a option. :(
Yeah, that’s a very good point, but I think the issue is not with accessibility, but with how these apps are built. Living in rural areas, having a disability, etc, this still means you could get a discord account, or take a class online, or find people on lemmy in your area, etc. Online dating is fine, but what irks me is viewing a bunch of people in scrollable format, rating them quickly based on superficial details, like in a market place.