For me its when someone tells me to bring them something. If i try to find something that i need, i will find it really quickly. If someone is asking me to find something for them in a room, it is like i become blind and even if its in front of me, it is really hard to find it.
For me is when I’m talking with someone and my mind starts to wander away, then I realize I have no clue what they just said. This is really problematic at work where I have to write down every single thing my boss says to me, otherwise sometimes I don’t even know what task I have been assigned.
It’s very frustrating with my wife too but at least she understands better what’s going on with me.
my girlfriend also has adhd so we keep getting distracted with each other, its so funny hahaha