Same problem as most everyone else really, one month away from homelessness.
Modern civilisation is ending and likely cannot be stopped.
Suggestions on a postcard pls.
So long, and thanks for all the fish
So sad that it should come to this
We tried to warn you all but oh dear
I moderated r/collapse for about a year. I’ve been aware since 2012 what is coming and it’s only this last year that it’s like a switch was flipped. This summer is going to be brutal and it will only get worse.
I can’t talk about this with my wife, as she is unable to cope with the data and shuts down. None of my friends want to talk about the problems we face and call me a downer. I’ve come to the realization that every day that I’m not baking alive, dying of thirst/hunger, or being killed for my meat is a good day that I should cherish.
Pretty much same. Around 2012 it really became apparent that nothing was going to be done in time and I personally flipped from “Science/tech will save us!” to pessimist. At this point it’s just realism.
The way the world handled Covid was the final nail in the coffin for me when the majority of humanity demonstrated that they can’t/won’t behave as a collective to save lives if it inconveniences them. It was the perfect test run for what is to come and most made it abundantly clear they can’t cope with any kind of disruption to their capitalistic routine.
Now the data is beginning to show in the graphs the news is slowly seeping into mainstream circles. But at this it’s way too late and nothing short of ditching the idea of growth and uniting/mobilising the entire world against the issue will solve it.
Luckily my partner is fully aware too so we’re just making what we can of the time we have left. My friends and family on the other hand are busy having kids and whilst appear to listen, obviously don’t grasp the gravity of the situation.
hopefully its the end of the beginning, more than the beginning of the end.
This graph suggests the latter.
Not to mention the rising tensions around the globe reminiscent of the 1930s.
Sometimes I think you know, being mildly chronically ill with no real social attachments isn’t that bad.
everything’s fine personally, but it makes me sad and bitter that i see a world where the light keeps getting dimmer. when i was younger, i believed in a bright future. hell, i believed in a bright future up until 2015 or so.
i don’t see young people making good memories any more. i don’t see love any more.
what can you do about it? make sure there are consequences for the people who are making it go dark.
gestures vaguely
Just began the process of divorcing my wife of 4 years for having a sexual relationship with someone I’ve been friends with for over 20 years. With the marriage goes my sense of financial security, a cohesive circle of close friends, a stable place to live, an adorable pup, and pretty much the entirety of my life plans for the next five years. I’m living paycheck to paycheck, and only barely so.
But I’ve learned to rely on myself and my resolve a lot more, and the relationship I’ve begun to forge with my inner-self is something I wouldn’t trade away for anything. And I’ve become a lot closer with the friends I’ve retained, or it feels like I have.
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I’m sorry for both/all of your losses.
Except for the dog. That dog is yours. And your rock to start rebuilding.
I need to find a smart and cute 45 year old lady with a nice house who’s lonely and horny. I can handle the shopping, cooking and entertainment.
If she has any friends in the same position put in a good word for me okay?
That’s the neat part, you can’t. Unless you can fix healthcare, housing/transportation, money etc (even if you could, it wouldn’t be the same as if those were never problems in the first place). That or the old escapist dream of “get me out of here” but I also don’t ever see that happening for a lot of reasons. So again, no.
Even trying to broaden the definition of help… things are probably too personal, too difficult/specific, and maybe even inconsequential. Like the type of thing there just isn’t an answer for.
For some reason I find it absolutely hilarious that some idiots have downvoted this.
“Please keep your existential dread to yourself as we only really want to hear problems that can be fixed with a pithy Lemmy comment.”
Sorry bro, not much consolation but I feel you.
I would say the point of my comment was more on despair than dread.
And anyone who downvoted probably didn’t get that I was speaking from my own life, as addressed in another reply. Guess that’s my fault for trying to make it not about me.
Though either way I can’t actually see the downvotes. None of them are federated to Kbin and on the Lemmy side the score seems identical now and no vote tracking to show negatives (unless that’s only if you have an account).
Helping a person doesn’t require systemic change. Ultimately yes, to end the major problems people face will require that change to occur, but helping an individual isn’t that hard. Sometimes people are just in a bind and could use advice or $50. Don’t call that inconsequential. If you get so in the weeds on systemic change that you fail to see how to help an individual in need, then you lost the thread.
This, right here.
Getting rid of people who say, “Stop being so dramatic!”
The human world is dying, and I’m supposed to just piddle around and not shout that it’s shit!?
I sell plasma to pay bills, after working a full-time salary job.
So, unless you have an answer, how about YOU be quiet.If it’s unclear, I was stating my own problems. I don’t see how a perfect internet stranger could help those issues, and even if they could I would probably just want them to help someone else instead.
The inconsequential bit was also speaking for myself. As in a situation of “I got this small thing that I wanted, but it didn’t have as much of an effect as I expected it would and now I feel worse that I asked for it”. I was also thinking in the mindset of not-something-everybody-needs but also not-something-that-could’ve-been-an-image-search-for-puppies.
Ah, I understand now. I’m in the same boat. My day-to-day is alright and I’m getting along fine, but the issues I’m facing are generally systemic. My solution is to do what I can to fight the system: I’m a union organizer at my company to fight the general unaffordability in my area (and obviously lots of other issues too), I’m drafting legislation for tenants rights so I don’t have as much landlord bs, etc. It’s hard work to do that stuff, but since those are my only major problems I think it’s worth my effort.
I don’t think OP was actually proposing that they’d solve our problems. Just wondering what they are (I guess).
I wanted some idea of where the problems lie and from there figure out what an individual could do.
For an actual reply from me, I’m a NEET shut-in with untreated health issues in a semi-rural area so probably not much unless in the same state (USA, MI). My ideas for individual help would be if somebody could:
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Tell me when the trail is going to open back up, or maybe they are the ones working on it (though either of those would likely just have me know slightly sooner)
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Tell me if atlas orthogonal adjustment is a real+effective thing (particularly in context of sleep quality/energy, autonomic issues, POTS, known whiplash history etc) and if the chiropractors near me (+the trail) have the equipment for that procedure plus X-rays (paperwork info etc).
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(If you live in an intentional community, again near the trail) tell me if I could be a good fit. Which is also a gamble when it comes to personality compatibility. And I don’t have high hopes for it.
So you see it’d be like trying to get a bullseye blindfolded when you don’t know where any dartboards are. Unlikely even if you had many darts.
On a non-local and less important note there is tech stuff that is specific, a high bar, and the sort of thing I already talk about here on the Fediverse already:
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Like still no Nim-lang bindings ready for Godot 4.
- Or alternatives that have similar feel+capability (from what I’ve seen, none do) but better support.
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Anything relating to untextured polygonal art.
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Godot 4 has a still-unmerged PR that allows for dynamic constructed art (animated eye example) but performance is likely an issue using it like that especially with MSAA
- and Godot still has vertex colors done via a list (no painting/color tools like index/layers).
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Raylib has polygons but there is no editor (I have an unfinished text format, because there are 2 formats for polygons).
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If I went with 3D that may be easier but I’d need to learn Blender unless there is also a good simpler low-poly+vertex colors model program.
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Free games that I don’t find tedious.
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It would be nice to have a Minetest game that doesn’t copy certain things from MC
- like hunger/stamina and cluttering cosmetic variants of blocks
- would be nice to have things like pistons (but more powerful/viable in survival mode, chain-able w/o manual logic), but with a close-enough base game (and not too wiki-dependent) I might try to figure out how to make what I can.
- Maybe something more like MC beta, though I guess maybe it’s subjective plus difficult to add real compelling elements.
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Not quite satisfied with S.Pixel Dungeon or other roguelikes.
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Hopefully this makes sense and isn’t too eclectic, answering something perhaps. Because I know these are probably too out-there.
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I interpreted it as they’d happily solve our problems providing we bring our own solutions.
Getting divorced at 57. Only married 8 years, but separated for almost 3 now. I hate online dating. I worry about being creepy when I see someone I’m attracted to. I can’t bring myself to hit on anyone I work with, especially since I’m only attracted to women far younger than me (30s and early 40s). I guess I’m alone from here out, with my only physical contact coming from the occasional massage parlor.
You planning on having kids? If not, maybe deprioritize attraction and focus on someone with a personality.
Bonus: you won’t feel nervous or creepy talking to them.
This is the way 🎯
Man, loneliness sucks! Best I can say is try and fill your free time as much as possible. I met my wife online, but that landscape has completely changed since we got together! At the time, I was in my late 30s and pretty much only out of my apartment for work or gym. If I hadn’t met her, I’m pretty sure gym time would’ve eventually dwindled to zero. Even if you don’t start a new relationship, you’ll be busy and around others. Better than Netflix being you closest “friend!”
Wait, you only are attracted to women in their 30s still, at nearly 60? Oof I am almost your age with kids that old. I can see why you are worried about seeming creepy.
Best of luck to you, in any event, and I do think if you open your window to women who are similar attractiveness to however you look, your prospects will be good, if you had a long run of a relationship you can again, you do know how to live with someone. That’s a valuable life skill. And I agree with d00phy, get out in the world and do things, you will meet people and make connections, that helps.
Tip of the iceberg: I’m a carer for an elderly parent, the other one is terminally ill and long estranged, my sibling has his own (mental-) health issues, and despite being well educated I am terminally unemployed with a CV that’s more gap than employment. I am past 40. In many ways it is too late for me to get my life on track. I power on, but I gave up a long time ago, it hurts less than having dreams. My current pension plan is a rope. Money would make my life better, but there are people who are far more deserving.
What could you do? Vote for progressive parties, politicians that are in favour of affordable healthcare, decent social security, social housing and perhaps even UBI.
Don’t do this for some random stranger on the internet. Do this for yourself.
There’s this myth that the homeless are all lazy, mentally ill or drug addicts. That the unfortunate deserve their misfortune. That you reap what you sow. It’s a comforting lie. Bad things happen to good people all the time. Life is not fair. You can do your best and still lose.
The reality is that plenty of homeless people have (hard science) degrees, are highly intelligent, worked really hard only to find their pension had been stolen from them, were otherwise ripped off, or got ill and couldn’t afford the bills. This could happen to you. Statistically, it is likely that this will happen to someone reading this.
Vote accordingly and realise that those less fortunate than you, could be you 6 months from now, through no fault of your own or that a stupid mistake could leave you in the gutter.
I’ve always been quite minimalistic so saving money has been very easy for me. After getting fired from my last job over speaking out against the abusive management, I haven’t returned to any work. I’ve also moved back home with my parents to not only save money but also take care of them as they get older and work on a relationship that never really was a relationship in the past (I found out in adulthood that I’m ADHD/Autistic).
It’s been some time since I had been abruptly fired from my job and the lawyers regarding that situation have come and gone from my life. Now I’m limbo. I have enough saved money for at least a year, maybe two. My parents have been gently pushing me to find work.
I just don’t want to work. Not anymore. All that’s left are jobs at soulless corporations which suck all individuality, creativity and happiness out of you. I don’t want to deal with people anymore. I barely want to leave the house knowing I have to share the roads with angry people aggressively driving their murder trucks.
I’m not very motivated to find a job at the never ending end of the world. I’m not sure how I can explain this to my parents who act as if the future is stable even when the news they consume everyday tells a story of a world unravelling.
The only thing I could do which would bring meaning to my current life situation is to join a group that focused on meaningful change for the future. Unfortunately, I live in a rural town that designed itself to have soulless suburbs and populated it with old folks who are completely out of touch with reality.
Have you considered remote work? It’s a godsend
I’m completely disinterested in working for another faceless, soulless entity which only focuses on wealth accumulation. I’m also disinterested in meaningless jobs that do nothing to help make the world a better place for the people that come after me.
At this point, I believe that the only way forward is direct action against unjust hierarchy and those who enforce it. As each day passes, I become more firm in that belief.
If I ever come across people who share the same views as me, I would gladly join them. That would give me the meaning and purpose to move forward that a standard job could never provide.
Until money becomes an issue and I’m forced to work to survive, I’d much rather spend my time around my parents and closest friends.
I do recognize that I am super fortunate to be in such a position, the painful majority of the world must work just to barely exist. I feel awful everytime I have to participate in society and enable the misery machine.
There are plenty of people on Lemmy who feel the same way. Why not organize with them?
I need to be involved locally and physically. My ADHD and impatience with the increasingly complicated technology we use today just doesn’t vibe together anymore. A brutal lesson I learned after my trade school courses I was attending went to an online format.
Lemmy’s userbase is just too small and my physical location is a bit too remote to organize anything. I have an alternate lemmy account at another server where I can connect with like-minded people online but that’s as much as I can get out of Lemmy until it’s userbase becomes significant.
I still search for events happening it the big city but time and distance is a factor I have to take in to consideration.
No car?
No car.
I’m “content” where I am now. I understand you want to help in some way but sometimes listening to someone vent helps more than any advice anyone can give.
People like to talk. People like being heard. People like being understood. Being too proactive can easily get in the way of listening sometimes.
Okay. I’m more than happy to listen.
OP’s solved it everyone!
We all just need to get in our cars that we definitely have and cross oceans to a Lemmy meetup where we amass in our hundreds to bring down the corporate hegemony, solve climate change and live out the rest of our days remotely working together in peace.
Too much depression and anxiety to work, not enough to get approved for disability. And bureaucracy is an anxiety trigger. Fun, innit?
I started jumping through those hoops, but then I got cancer and it’s really easy to get disability with it. Life pro tip lol.
Trying to care for my partner with PTSD, she’s alcoholic and actively suicidal. Doctor is trying to help but mental health support has a huge waiting list (months and years). Her son, living with us, is retarded, rude, disrespectful, incompetent, and complains constantly about not being able to get a job so he can move out. (I’m not sure that he’s even employable). My ex wife kicked out my son because he and my youngest are arguing all the time and she (ex wife) can’t cope. He started moving in here but doesn’t get along with my partner so he ran away from home (he’s an adult). Now we have a room full of his stuff but don’t know where he is or whether he’s coming back.
I’m still getting over cancer treatment and l I’m so tired.
I’m fine, how are you?
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After multiple times being essentially abandoned, I’ve learned to have absolutely zero sense of self worth. I’m beginning to see just how much that shows through in my behaviors.
Well, I recently got diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. And instead of doing the smart thing, I’ve just been drinking myself to sleep multiple times a day, which is easy to do because I’m unemployed.
I’m constantly having to keep my head on a swivel because I pissed off a person known for shooting people and getting away with it - I didn’t know this when I pissed him off. Honestly shocked that what I said pissed him off to the point he had his friends jump me.
And last night I ran into an old crush who is not single and started the process all over again of trying to get past it and just be friends with him. But it’s hard to just let these feelings go. Fuck my life.
One day at a time.
If you’re worried about your drinking, there’s no time like now to stop.
For starters, I’m 20 hours late for this post. It’s the two year anniversary of my mother dying of cancer. My brother died of cancer in August. My wife almost died this month. I can’t sleep. I have too much anxiety. I don’t have any face to face friends and I feel too burned out for anyone to want to be my friend.
Lost ones anniversaries are rough. I like to imagine those I’ve lost over time would rather cheer me up than have me remember them through sadness. Still, easier said than done.
(The silver lining about the slower content on lemmy compared to reddit is you can be hours late and still be part of the discussion instead of casting your bottle at sea if you miss the 15 minute window.)
I’m sorry for your losses but remember life is for the living. Live your life as best you can. That’s why they call it the present.
