This is a really stupid question I know but recently I had a bi cycle and I want to be able to me more attracted to guys again. I don’t like the fact that I’m nearly straight rn. Is there any way to influence who I’m attracted to?
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What’s the timespan? Mine only last a couple days at most. If it’s that long, just chill and wait.
It’s worth inspecting why you don’t like being nearly straight. I’m slightly traumatized and afraid of women because of an abusive ex. My fear of losing interest in men it’s partly attached to that.
I’ve found that when I’m in a woman phase, it’s often because I haven’t seen a beautiful man in a while. Same the other way too. Then I see one and suddenly I’m into men/women again. Being bi doesn’t mean you MUST be attracted to all men or all women. Let’s be real.
Maybe you just need to meet someone your type to end the cycle.
Why would you want to influence who you’re attracted to? I think the heart of it is why do you feel like you don’t like the fact that you’re “nearly straight”.
I don’t think your attraction per se is a controllable thing, but sometimes I find I need to spend some time in queer spaces/talking with queer friends/consuming queer media/art to feel a sense of connection to the broader LGBT+ community and the community of gay/bi/men who have sex with men subcultures.
Remember, bisexuals in “straight” relationships or outside of relationships who are feeling more attracted to the opposite gender are still bisexual.
So I’d say, relax, don’t sweat it, but maybe see about making some bi/gay friends or spending times in LGBT+ spaces?