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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ThrowawayBro696 on 2023-06-29 18:57:39+00:00.

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My(m37) sister(f29) recently got engaged to “the love of her life” I’ll call Derek(m34).

They’ve been dating for about a year and a half and we the family have gotten to know Derek since the beginning of this year.

We all love Derek. Especially my dad and I, we watch F1 every weekend together with the rest of our friends.

The engagement was announced about 3 weeks ago, we were all obviously excited. 2 weeks ago at the last GP i was talking to Derek and at some point, (reason i might be an a-hole) my mind slipped and I said something along the lines of: “it’s great you found someone you love so much you would abandon having children”

Sadly my sister had to fight a battle with ovarian cancer when she was 16-17 which resulted in the surgical removal of her ovaries and from what I understand part of her uterus.

Now I didn’t think much about my comment. BUT TURNS OUT SHE NEVER DISCUSSED THIS WITH HIM. It was like i dropped a nuclear bomb of information. He said now it made sense why she always avoided discussing about children.

Well needless to say. The engagement broke, and they have now separated. And in the eyes of my sister and mother I’m the asshole who separated my sister from the love of her life.