• snooggums
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    8 months ago

    As someone who never heard of the term before, I assume that if traumadumping was just sharing trauma then it wouldn’t be called trauma dumping.

    The overwhelming nature is what makes it dumping, as I’m your example.

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        8 months ago

        distribute the emotional load across multiple interpersonal relationships

        Yall expect me to have multiple interpersonal relationships? In this economy?

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          just share the load across others instances, never heard about fediverse?

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          Good news can also be you sharing a light hearted meme or talking about a tv show you like. It just needs to be positive interaction.

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              8 months ago

              It sounds like you maybe don’t have a lot in common with those people. I don’t mean that in a negative way, you can build commonalities if the relationships are worth it to you.

              When they talk over you, what are they talking about? Try asking about those things and letting yourself get excited, even if they don’t sound like your interests. I once let someone infodump to me about Kim kardashian, whom I was actively uninterested in, but they were so passionate, I still enjoyed the conversation.

              Otherwise you can try to do a new activity with them (even if you’re not in the same area, there are are dozens of remote socializing tools that are still around from the pandemic, online party games and things like that).

              They might also just be having a tough time, too. I tend to withdraw from my loved ones when I’m stressed out. Maybe they’re not responding to the memes but they still appreciate them.

              It doesn’t hurt to ask, assuming you trust them enough to be emotionally vulnerable like that. Maybe after doing something fun, since from the context of the post, I’m assuming you’re worried you might be emotionally overburdening them and a relationship talk (even for a friendship) isn’t exactly lighthearted.