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Cake day: June 11th, 2023

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  • This is anecdotal, but I’ve loved animals my entire life. I was going to be a vet, but changed careers because my internship made me afraid it would ruin my love of animals.

    I’ve had a very rough twenty years. I was married to a man who turned out was abusive to animals, so I gave up my dream of having pets. When I bucked my entire culture to divorce him, I fought my way back to enough financial security to own them again.

    My first pet was 5 when I got him. I had three years of his endless health problems, but I loved him and he died. Then I got a couple of puppies and I love them, but…I don’t think I’ll own any more dogs. Dealing with other pet owners has been a nightmare. Off leash, poorly trained, outright dangerous dogs everywhere.

    But even more to the point, I’m a terrible owner for them. I’m allergic, so I only play with them before my shower. And my mental health has me barely able to function some days. And I’ll never be able to own the property they need to truly flourish. They deserve better than me. So I agree. Poor mental health can be exacerbated by pet ownership.












  • Police don’t issue POs in any jurisdiction I know of. You have to go to court for that. Police can’t do more than ask them nicely to go away until you get a court issued PO signed by a judge.

    The vast majority of evidence shows that people don’t tend to go around falsely accusing their loved ones of crimes just for kicks and giggles. Yet every abuse apologist loves to polish up that argument every single time.

    I’m trying to give you the benefit of doubt, but you do realize that making these arguments in this way puts you squarely aligned with the most consistent group of murderers in the world, right?

    “People are being hurt and terrorized, and need to be protected!”

    “But we couldn’t possibly take away a few guns until we sort this out, because an entitled violent person’s right to have a gun is way more important than thousands of innocent murdered women and children, right!..Right?”


  • I think you’re getting temporary POs confused with permanent ones.

    My ex and abuser was convicted of domestic violence charges, and currently owns a gun and has no public record of his crimes. This despite being anti gun and getting it for the sole purpose of scaring me. Proof has nothing to do with it. Courts regularly ignore proof in order to fail to protect victims. If they don’t accept criminal convictions as proof, there isn’t much they will accept. Don’t pretend this has anything to do with a need to prove that someone is a monster before taking away his deadly toys.

    For what it is worth, our kids are still fighting to heal the damage he did to them. But he has a right to a gun, so bully for him.









  • Yeah, that’s the point I stopped reading because it went totally off the rails. Women have a pretty good handle on what men find attractive. They tell us incessantly. We just don’t care, most of the time, because we are born how we are born, and eat how we eat, and care more about being comfortable in our own skin than with what men think of us.

    I don’t have an issue with men writing it, but I do have an issue with the patronizing attitude, the condescension. These guys still don’t get it, and if they simplified on purpose, they took it too far.